Originally Posted by
sparkle27
but to me there are so much other girls out there who are stunning and have the perfect body, whereas me I don't see myself as pretty and I could be done with losing some extra weight.
What is bothering you when you see yourself image? You should be beautiful as your boyfriend says, and love yourself as you are. Nobody is perfect even Hollywood movie starts. They have their own body image & self-esteem issues. Why do you worry that much?
Obviously projecting your insecurity to others, and seeking assurance is not healthy, and it can ruin the relationship. I guess you like him so much and are afraid to loose him. However, it is NOT fun to be with someone who has lack of self-esteem and confidence . You should gain firm self esteem to make yourself happy and make the relationship work.
I guess you are self conscious about your body image as most of young girls . If this is the case, my yoga teacher taught this to us:
Sit down in front of full size of mirror by yourself. Look at your body thoroughly with love (not criticism). Repeat the below 10 times a day.
"I am so beautiful, and I love myself."
"I am good at ..... (put something here you are good at), and I am so special."
"I am so special, and nobody is like me."
It sounds ridicules, but obviously it works. It is simply self-awareness / self-assurance process. People see what they like to see. If you present yourself as beautiful person to you, everyone will see you as the one. Do something you like, and be your own star. Don't wait until other people put you in the spotlight, but put yourself in the center of world and give full attention. Do your best to develop yourself as you want to be instead of worrying about others. If you do not love yourself, who will love you?