[Eden69]

I can get an erection, not a problem but it seems to be that during sex it sometimes goes a little limp :o Its not because I'm not enjoying it, I am, its just that I start to worry "Is my wife enjoying it to?" Its then my mind starts to wonder and then I start trying to hard to make it enjoyable and that's where I can't bring it back to life. Once my wife starts moaning and enjoying it then I get hard again and we both end with an orgasm. This limp problem isn't an issue though when we are having se Doggy Style. I don't know if this is because of the feeling of it or what. I know that the problem starts in my head but I just want to know that I'm either not the only person like it or that there are things that I can do mentally to stop this.

Its not causing any sexual problems yet but I want to put a stop to it now before/incase it does.

All feedback is welcome.

Thanks :)

[bronzebabe]

Because you start thinking about if she is enjoying it, things start to go "limp". Ask her, "does it feel good?" or "do you like it?" and she will respond. Or tell her that the moaning and knowing she is enjoying it, makes it REALLY good for you.
She would probably Love to know how she turns you on.

[redhed35]

OK,I'm a 37 year old woman,I would say I've had my share of sexual experiences..
If the man I was with lost his erection or went a little soft,I never made an issues out of it,we took a break,and started touching and kissing again..
I can only answer one part of your question,and that is that your not the only man this happens to..

[Mymama]

Stop and start doing some foreplay. Foreplay is always good and might get you going again...

[plonak]

You know the answer to this question, this is very clearly in your head.

Right when you start worrying that she's enjoying herself you start to lose your erection.. so there is your answer! Stop worrying while you're have sex and just try to feel the sensations.. be confident and know that your woman thinks you're mighty sexy.. seems to me that she is very pleased..

Any woman that's able to orgasm every time during sex is a happy one I am sure

[Gemini54]

The answer is to focus on her pleasure, not think about how she's feeling. If she's moaning then she must be having a good time, right? So enjoy yourself, ask her to moan a lot and have fun!

[Eden69]

All,

Thanks for the response. I'll try the "stop and try foreplay/kissing.touching etc" next time it happens. Ive got a book that helps with pleasures for him and her, so far the comments and techniques that they mention seem to be working. Again, thanks for the comments

[Curlyben]

Clearly you are suffering from Performance Anxiety.
Stop thinking so deeply and go with the flow of the moment..
Communication is King, Ask your wife what she likes and act on it..