Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
I am currently 28 years with a 9 year old little girl and my boy friend is 48.
Awesome.
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
He has kids himself and he is still married but not living together. they have not filed any paper work to move along to divorce. He has told me that the love in his marriage had been dead for years and that is why he cheated on his wife of 23 years because he fell in love with another woman.
He's lying.
How do I know you ask?.
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
She also said she would kill herelf if he left her.
The very next line contradicts what you just said. If there is no love in that marriage, at least from her point of view she wouldn't kill herself for him if he left. In fact, that explains why they are still married and he has his bachelor pad on the side.
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
I broke it off with him 2 weeks ago because the way he treated me
You mean because you were his mistress?
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
and that he always wanted to hang out with his friends. I have been intigrating him in with my daughter so that we can all be a family.
I am nobody to question a parent as I don't have any kids... but why would you ever bring a married man into your home as a father figure and try to pass this off as a family setting. You are setting you daughter up to be someone's mistress someday because she's going to think this behavior is normal. There are guys that happen to be single who respect women and their children, why not introduce your daughter to a strong, loyal one like that so that some day when she dates she might try to find one that respects her?
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
But recently a girl came up to my door and said that she had been seeing my b/f for some time and that she had seen the text messages that we send to each other and handed me my business card that she said she found in his pants. She said she was done with him and all
his drama and she left before i could ask her any questions.
I can't think that one person reading this is surprised. You're a mistress, he's married, and now you've been cheated on. Why were we trusting him again?
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
I confronted him about it and he let me check his email, myspace, facebook, phone records and his phone.
So this married man, with a bachelor pad has multiple accounts.
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
He said he cares about me and wants to be with me and that he does not know who this girl is.
I wonder if it's his wife.
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
he sent me pics of all his ex's he dated in the last year to see if it was one of them that came to see me and it wasn't any of them.
He has pictures of ALL the ex's from the last year?
Isn't there a lot about that quote that strike you as beyond strange?
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
Last month someone called his work trying to get me and him in trouble so this is twice now that someone is wanting him and i not to be together
I wonder if *69 would have lead to his wife's number.
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
and it makes me want to be with him 10X more.
Trully a woman's mind. You see competition and now the married man who was a challenge to begin with is the ulitmate conquest. I guess this swirl downward would be okay if it was just you, but I can't believe you'd subject you daughter to this behavior or drama.
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
My best friend has heard all the good and bad with him and she has worked with him and his friends before but never met him personally and she calls me a retard/stupid for believing this guy.
Please do not insult the retarded or stupid. They could see through this.
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
She said you had a girl come to your door not freaking out but just informing you that she was seeing him too. I don't know what to think any more Im confused.
I'm not. Nobody reading this is. You friend isn't. Retards aren't. Stupid peole get it.
What we all see is he's using you for sex.
Originally Posted by
rubberduck391
I love him and i have been
cheated on before by my 1st husband. I am a successful attorney and so is he so I am not here for the money.
What money? I don't mean this as an attorney joke, but I think this is part of your problem. You see things as money, here's what I'm going to do, this is what will happen, pay me. Everything follows a similar path as an attorney. But emotionally, you are all over the place. You just give them away and have no laws applied to your own emotional states.
The man is married. You don't care. The man says he will never leave his wife. You don't care. Other girls tell you he is cheating on you. You want him more. He openly admits to cheating on his wife with other girls. You don't care. He shows you pictures of women he's dated recently. You want him more.
Anyone of those things above would have scared off most people. For you, it just means you go in further. You have no control over your emotional states and you have no boundries so of course he's going to take advantage of you. You should be setting up personal boundries and dealing with your own emotional issues before taking on self destructive problems like this.