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    RoseMortem Posts: 22, Reputation: 2
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    Jun 17, 2009, 10:11 PM
    My Heart or my 'Rents
    Just to be clear, this user name is being shared (long story) between three women (19,16 and 17) and now me (20 and the only guy to use it so far)

    I was dating this awesome girl (girl X) around this time last year for around 3 months (give or take) until my grandmother (who I was very close to died ) I broke down and asked her to leave. She understood 1oo% and knew we would both be better off. Im now dating this girl (girl Y) who seemed OK at first but is very clingy, I ve spoken to her about it and she ignored me for a week to prove she could give me space XD Its been four months and Im unhappy. I felt the need to contact girl X, so last week I called her, we have been talking a lot, I haven't stopped thinking about her since we broke up and I think I love her. I have one problem. Girl X is disliked by my mother and father as she is a goth and really out there. Girl Y how ever has been pratically adopeted by my enitre family. I don't love Girl Y, but I'm also scared to leave her cos she is so unsure of her self.. . Advice?

    just to be clear I have no cheated
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    ChihuahuaMomma Posts: 7,378, Reputation: 608
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    Jun 17, 2009, 11:28 PM

    First off all, multiple users on one username isn't a great idea, I will confuse users here. You each need to make your own screen names.

    Don't stay with someone that you don't love, and don't NOT date someone because your family doesn't care for them. You are dating that person, not your family. Now, if she is disrespectful to your family, that is another story.
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    CrazyThumper Posts: 82, Reputation: 36
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    Jun 18, 2009, 01:20 PM
    Do girl Y a favor. Leave her alone. You said you're unhappy and it's been 4 months, etc. Just because she is close to your family, if you aren't feeling her(not literally) then let her go. You said "but im also scared to leave her cos she is so unsure of her self". So her insecurities and issues have now become a reason to lead her on and pretend that you want to be with her? You can care for someone, but that does not equate dating/staying with them in a relationship. It doesn't work like that man. Don't lead people on, be honest with them AND yourself.

    As far as girl X goes- you initially pushed her away due to a loss in your family that affected you. This shows your emotions are unstable, and your commitment to her is lacking. THIS is not fair to girl X. You also mentioned you love her... so you dated her for three months, left her, and you're now talking again and you're magically in love? Slow down tiger. Start to see her again if she is on the same page as you, but take it easy and take it one day at a time.. you're young man, relax!

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    N0help4u Posts: 19,823, Reputation: 2035
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    Jun 18, 2009, 01:21 PM

    Your new girl is clingy. I think the best thing to do is get a good clean break from her BEFORE you even bother considering getting back with the ex.
    With your parents liking this girl you will just be dragging your ex into a big mess until you tidy up your issues first.
    Sure your parents will most probably still compare them and all but she doesn't need to be brought into the mix and it end up being a war zone.
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    sweet1028 Posts: 146, Reputation: 43
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    Jun 20, 2009, 11:39 AM

    You said you have not cheated. Does girl Y know that you are talking to ex Girl X. Sorry about the loss of your grandmother, but was this truly a good reason to end the relationship with Girl X. She could've been there for you to help you through this time in your life but you pushed her away. Take things slow and defintely break it off with Girl Y even if your parents do not agree. Hope things work out for you.
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