CPS Child abandonment.
My 17yo daughter was put into custody because of abandoment...
There is a lot of information with my daughter and if I have left anything out I will answer any questions.
Here is the history:
She has been in counseling since she was a child, about 10 years. She is a thief, serious and petty. She lies non stop and has had many diagnoses, currently written as NOS mood disorder but we were verbally told Boderline Personalty Disorder. They told us they couldn't give that as written because of her age.
After about 10 years with community counseling and 2 acute placements we went with MYPAC. We live in MS but they are based out of TN. MS had nothing left for us to use. They had to place her in respite care because of her aggresion and I refused to allow her to return until MYPAC could help her with her problems. While she was in respite care she posted pronographic pictures of herself on the web and texted them to some of her boyfriends. She also threatened to beat the foster mother, her grandchild, and her great grand child , and to walk out the door with her son. (My daughter has a 6mo child who is also now in custody but still with her)
I could not allow her to return because that would mean putting my other children at risk further because of her behaviors.
EX of her behaviors:
I went to a trift store and got a call from my son saying his sister had let a stranger in the house and he could see the boys naked butt jumping on her in her bed.
I was at the hospital because my father had an emergency surgery and I caught her on the road in my car (being stored because of lack of use)with no licsence, tags, or plates. She had left her younger brothers and sisters alone in the house while this was going on.
She stole from 2 family members all of which I repaid. She stole my nieces CS card and forged signature on it and also paid for cell phone service with it.
Before anyone asks WHY did I allow her to be alone with my other children, please look into Borderline Personality Disorder first. She goes through periods of appearing and acting well, then will change on a drop of a dime. All of this happened before we were told BPD by the Drs and before I knew what it was and what it does.
My question is, what is going to happen? The judge told me to get a lawyer but I cannot afford one. I have read that abandonment was a criminal charge, does that mean I can request an appointed lawyer?
Am I at risk for jail time, or losing my other children? Will this go on a permnent record for me? I used to work with children and have a degree for it, will this prohibit me from future employment?
Oh, and MYPAC is a service that tries to resolve problems in the home before residential treatment is sought. By them placing her in a residential facility, they would be proving their services don't work and they would lose funding. One of her counselors told me this after we were already into the program.
As I stated there is MUCH more to this but it would take forever to write it all so I will answer any questions to clear this up. I have also contacted a legal aid service and awaiting their return call.
Another question, I am currently a SAHM of 3 children and raising my niece. I tried to work for about five years but it never worked out because my 9yo son has a severe disabilty and I cannot find daycare suitable to his needs in our area, so I missed quite a bit of work to meet his needs. There was mention (and they gave a financial form) of paying the state CS for my daughter. Are they going to make my husband pay support to her seeing as he is not the biological father? Her bio father has only paid approx 30.00 support and hasn't seen her since she was 1mo old.
Thank you, if you got this far, and for your recommendations and answers...
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