[Wildcat21]

Top 10: Ways To Spark Attraction
By David DeAngelo

When it comes to succeeding with women, the name of the game is ATTRACTION. If you don't know what sparks attraction in a woman and how to use that knowledge to make her FEEL it, you're going to have a lot of lonely nights. But once you master this invisible force… well, you'll have more women in your life than you can handle. Here are 10 tips to spark that magical feeling of attraction in the women you want.

Number 10 Stop trying to impress her

Most guys think that they need to IMPRESS an attractive woman. They try to be on their best behavior and not make any mistakes or say something that will upset or offend her. Of course, this leads to nervous, self-conscious, "stilted" behavior AND it creates a tense, uncomfortable atmosphere that literally KILLS any attraction she may feel for you. Instead, you need to practice remaining totally calm. RELAX and lay back. Stop thinking that you need to impress a woman and start expecting her to impress YOU.

Number 9

Keep the power

Ever been on a date and you could just sense that she had all the POWER? As if she had something that you desperately wanted and she KNEW IT? Most guys give away their power when they're with a woman. But do you think women are ATTRACTED to men who do this? No. The solution is to let her know that YOU are the one doing the "selecting," NOT HER. Show that you're picky about who you spend your time with and tease her about how she's screwing up her chances with you. Communicate that she's going to have to be on her best behavior to "qualify" for your time, and you'll be surprised just how far she'll go to get on your calendar.

Number 8

Master conflict

Most men avoid CONFLICT as if it were an evil force, and when they do experience it, they HATE it. The fear of conflict keeps a lot of guys unsatisfied and unable to progress in life. When you learn to effectively handle and manage conflict -- whether it's with your boss, with your date, or even within YOURSELF -- you'll be on one of the most direct routes to real maturity. And everyone knows that women are irresistibly attracted to emotionally MATURE men. So ask yourself where you avoid conflict in your life and what you can do to get more comfortable with it. Whatever it is, make a commitment to get it "handled,” and women will LOVE you for it.

Number 7 Pass her tests

If it were CRITICAL to find out what another person's TRUE character was like, and the stakes were high, how would you do it? The obvious answer is that you would create character TESTS for the other person and never TELL that person you're testing him.

This is EXACTLY what women do to men. Women look for things like dominance, drive and composure, and they test for these things by challenging men, changing plans at the last minute, playing hard to get, expecting special treatment, and so on.

How do you pass these tests and graduate to the next level? Realize when a woman is testing you and have the attitude of, “I can deal with any test a woman throws at me.” This strong, confident attitude will send her an undeniable signal that you're the solid kind of guy she wants to get to know better.

Number 6The bad-boy look

Here are two undeniable facts about women:

FACT 1: Many women are attracted to the “Bad Boy.”
FACT 2: A woman knows if you’re a “Bad Boy” before you say a single word.

How? It’s by the way you LOOK -- and I’m not talking fashion here. It’s about the look on your face. Marlon Brando had it in the classic film A Streetcar Named Desire; James Dean had it in movies like Rebel Without a Cause and East of Eden. The combination of the furrowed brow, pursed lips and slightly squinted eyes triggers an automatic attraction-response deep inside a woman. You won’t believe how quickly this unique "look" will give you more of a bad-boy vibe and take your success with women to the next level.
Number 5Put yourself on a pedestal
How would you act if you KNEW beyond the shadow of a doubt that a woman was TOTALLY into you but you weren’t THAT interested in her, and that you decided RELUCTANTLY to give her a chance to hang out with you? What if you were a bit arrogant, but still in the mood to have fun with it and tease her to see how much she really wanted you? Practice coming from this mental space and you'll find that it'll eliminate your nervousness -- INSTANTLY -- and it will give you the edge you need to project a confident, attractive vibe to ANY woman.

Number 4Be TOO comfortable

When a man is intimidated by a woman, she ALWAYS knows. How? Because he'll behave in ways that subtly tell her he's not comfortable with himself, with her and with the situation. The solution is to go to the OPPOSITE EXTREME and create the feeling that you're TOO comfortable. Mimic something she's doing in a funny way -- for example, if she has a really rigid posture, sit up extra straight and say, "I really think you should work on your posture." People are only playful like this when they're feeling comfortable, so this behavior will send the message that you're not intimidated by her in the slightest.

You can also pick up something small like a napkin and swat her with it, especially after you've made fun of her and she's pretending the comment bothered her. Most men don’t have the guts to be this bold, so when you DO, she'll see you as a cut above other guys.

Number 3 Kiss her

Let's face it: When it's time for the first kiss, most guys get a bit freaked out and start acting nervous because they don't know exactly what to do. If you're talking to a girl and you want to know if she's ready to be kissed, here's what you can do: Reach over and touch her hair while you're talking and make a comment about it. You might say, "Your hair looks so soft," and just touch the tips of it. If she smiles and likes this, reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets you keep touching her hair, you know she's ready for you to kiss her, so give her what she wants.

Number 2 Drive her CRAZY with anticipation

Here’s a killer move that will send ANY woman's attraction for you through the roof: I call it "Two Steps Forward, One Step Back." At each phase of contact -- like holding hands, kissing, and so on -- STOP and lean back for a minute or two BEFORE moving to the next "level." Let's say you're kissing a woman; instead of rushing in and trying to touch her body, stop kissing her and just look her in the eyes. THEN start kissing her again. The more you hold back and make her wait, the more she'll want you to CONTINUE. Creating and playing with "sexual tension" like this is a recipe for some SERIOUS chemistry.

Number 1 Bring out her animal responses

In the animal kingdom, different animals have signals that tell their mate of choice they're interested. When the male uses one of these signals, the female actually becomes PARALYZED and freezes in a sexually aroused position. Women respond in a similar way to several specific behaviors from men. So if you want to turn her on in a BIG way, smell her neck and shoulders… pull her hair gently by running your hand up the back of her neck and her hair, then make a fist and pull lightly… breath in her ear and whisper a compliment to her or bite her neck gently. Warning: Use these moves with caution -- you may create a WILD ANIMAL that will stop at nothing to get what she wants from you.

It’s about confidenceUltimately, if you relax and are comfortable with yourself, she will be more attracted to you than if you put her on a pedestal and act nervous. Remember: You’re just as much of a catch as she is. Now have fun with it.

[Wildcat21]

Please note #7

[chuff]

Okay Wildcat here comes another stupid question. As I've been reflecting for the past couple of months I now realize what you mean by a guy passing her tests. My ex-girlfriend used to do this all the time back when I was in college although I just thought she was argueing with me.

The reason I bring this up is because at one point when she trying to argue with me about something I vividly remember telling her "Don't you think if you actually spent half as much time trying to encourage me or say something positive to me this relationship would be so much better and we'd both be happier." Now at the time I just thought she was just arguing for arguing sake but as I look back at some of those arguments they were indeed tests she was giving me. That being said, I still stand by my original point that I said to her, if a woman didn't initiate a argument for no real purpose (i.e. an argument that has no real solution) wouldn't the relationship as a whole be better? What I mean is less arguments equals a better relationship.

[Wildcat21]

It was totally a test.

There are a lot people on this board who don't believe me that women test guys. They test all day long.

The sooner you get this the better.

To answer your question - Women don't work that way. That don't rely on logic as much - the yrely on their FEELINGS!!

They want you to make them feel!! Great feelings.

Seriously - women argue because it brings out feelings. It makes them live!!

[Knowledgefinder]

I think it is fair to say that guys have their own "tests" too? I'm asking here, don't guys have their own way of "testing" women as well?

[chuff]

Unless I'm missing something I'm going to say no. By tests this article and Wildcat are referring to women who start argueing or pestering a man with no end solution in mind. They are attempting to see how far they can push him emotionally and what his reactions will be. When I've argued with someone it was because I was either mad or wanted a change in what was going on in my life at that time.

[NeedKarma]

Who are these girls you guys are dating? In all honesty it sounds more like high school than anyhting else. Are you going after the pampered princesses/spoiled brats? The women with control issues?

There are tons of women out there who exhibit none of what you are talking about... provided you don't start playing head games with them, then it's fair game for them to find out if you really are who you appear to be.

[talaniman]

I think as humans we all have things we do to see where people stand or where they are coming from and I don't think it necessarily is limited to devious princess types or just women. We men have our tests too. In any relationship there are all kinds of tests we use to gather information and opinions which range from honest talk to some argueing and contrary behavior. Early in dating and even living together all kinds of tests come in to play to set boundries and feel out opinions likes and dislikes. Anything can be carried to extremes and become hurtfull or argumentive often depending on the COMMUNICATION skills of a person. I agree with Wildcat when he says that some people are not aware of what their doing, but do it to meet their own ends or needs.

[Wildcat21]

Guys absolutely have tests.

If you don't understand women's test you are probably single.