[JudyKayTee]

I realize my case may be a bit more extreme than the OP's but my point is, we can't really make the call that her stepmom isn't just like my dad's ex wife.

- Nor can we make the call that she is.

[ZoeMarie]

What?

[JudyKayTee]

Fro clarification:

You said: "we can't really make the call that her stepmom isn't just like my dad's ex wife."

I said: "- Nor can we make the call that she is."

I'm truly sorry you went through this with your stepmother. That doesn't mean, however, that this OP isn't going through some sort of emotional upheaval due to her father's relationship with his new wife. It does not necessarily mean the new stepmother is jealous or abusive.

Get it?

[braindamage]

First I would like to say sorry about your mother but What you can do is stand up to her(stepmom)... and also there can be millions of reasons she's like that towards.It could be that you are your dads child and she wants one of her own and she's jelous that you are closer and a lot of othas I'm spit ballin haha
Or
Talk to your dad about her MAKE him listen this is important and don't just tell him this tell him EVERYTHING that's on your mind.about your relationship AND start by saying dad I need to talk to you its important (dnt start with the stepmom)
And once again STAND UP TO HER
After all you only got three months until you leave live life to the fullest

[ZoeMarie]

Judy, let me just start by telling you that you give awesome advice and I mean no disrespect at all, but reading her post it sounds like this girl has a good head on her shoulders and tries pretty hard. We don't know her, so what motive would she have to lie to us. I'm just saying, that if this situation is anything like what I went through, it isn't her fault. At this point, I was hoping she would come back so we could ask questions and help her better, but I think I caught this thread way too late.

[JudyKayTee]

Judy, let me just start out by telling you that you give awesome advice and I mean no disrespect at all, but reading her post it sounds like this girl has a good head on her shoulders and tries pretty hard. We don't know her, so what motive would she have to lie to us. I'm just saying, that if this situation is anything like what I went through, it isn't her fault. At this point, I was hoping she would come back so we could ask questions and help her better, but I think I caught this thread way too late.

I'm not saying she's lying - I'm saying she is seeing it from her perspective.

I'm also not saying that stepmothers aren't sometimes mean and/or jealous - as are stepchildren. Can you tell I'm a stepmother?

I'm just saying no one should jump to judgment here. There are big changes on both sides when a parent remarries and I HATE the rush to judgment on the Boards which I sometimes see.

And, yes, it is a shame that you came on so late because I think you could have helped her in the very beginning - hopefully she'll come back and fill us in on what is going on.

And thank you for the compliment - no disrespect meant or taken!

[ZoeMarie]

Thanks Judy, I hoped you wouldn't take anything the wrong way. I hope she does come back.

[catmichelle]

... Obviously your stepmom has issues and needs therapy... I don't understand how these women think they can have a "father" all to themselves... there is this website I saw this chatroom.. these" stepmothers" were talking about how they secretly hate there stepdaughters... can you say physco hitch?. ha anyway you seem like a very mature girl and want your father to be happy with his new wife... your stepmom needs to not treat you like your cinderella... next time she's going through her insecure mood swings stand up for yourself say how your feeling and hopefully she will come to her senses... if she doesn't then talk to your dad when she's not around remember its your father.. and no matter what he will always be your father... good luck sweetheart..