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kassy636 · May 22, 2009, 12:26 PM

Okay, so two day ago, a boy asked me to be his girlfriend. He told me that he'd been "crushing" on me really hard. He's sweet and I know he really cares about me. I didn't have the heart to say no, so I said yes.

So here's the problem. I don't like him any more than as a good friend. He's funny, nice, somewhat cute, and obviously likes me. He wanted to hold hands all that night and put his arm around my waist a lot. Now, in the halls at school, I can't pass him without being smothered in a giant hug. It was cute at first, but now I'm just a little annoyed. When I look at him or spend time with him, I don't think, "Wow, my first boyfriend. I like him."

I think, "This is awkward and I'm starting to like him less than I did before."

I know I should break up with him. Being with him shouldn't be stressful, it shouldn't make me feel guilt but it does. We've only been going out since Wednesday night (it's now Friday) and I'd hate to have one of those stupid short relationships. Especially with a guy that I knows really care about me.

I shouldn't lie to him, I shouldn't fake my attraction, and I want to be single again, but I just don't have the heart to break up. Does anyone have any helpful hints that might just make this easier? :(

kassy636 · May 22, 2009, 12:27 PM

Oh, and right before he asked me out, he gave me a $20 gift that he had bougth that day for me... -____-
*feels horrible*

artlady · May 22, 2009, 12:31 PM

You need to tell him that you really like him as a friend but you just are not ready for a boyfriend right now.
You could say you really liked the gift but if he wants it back ,you will understand.
Be honest,it might be hard to do but it will be even harder if you let him continue to think you are both on the same page.

nikosmom · May 22, 2009, 12:31 PM

You have to be honest with him. If you are not happy you need to end it and be single if that's what you want and he deserves to be with someone that enjoys his company. So it's not fair to either of you.

Sit down and talk to him.

Have you tried telling him that you're not comfortable being so affectionate all the time? That might be a place to start.

Wondergirl · May 22, 2009, 12:33 PM

How old are the two of you? (My response will vary depending on your ages--if you are 15 or if you are 63.)

I wish · May 22, 2009, 12:35 PM

You said it yourself, you should have been honest in the first place, instead of leading him on like this.

Now you have to face the consequences. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that you DID want to give him a chance at first (otherwise you really wouldn't have said yes). But now you realize that you don't feel the same way about him as he does about you.

kassy636 · May 22, 2009, 12:36 PM

artlady and nikosmom: You're both right. I know I have to be honest, but I'm having trouble just approaching him with the news.
Well, the longer I wait, the worse it's just going to get.

Wondergirl: We're both 15

kassy636 · May 22, 2009, 12:39 PM

(sorry for all the double-posting... )

Okay. Thank you everybody for your feedback, it's just what I was looking for. :]

I might as well get this over with when I next see him. Thanks again-

N0help4u · May 22, 2009, 12:50 PM

You need to tell him you don't feel you are ready for any gf/bf relationship because you do not feel comfortable.
Continuing with this will only end up hurting you and him.
Breaking up and being broke up is a part of dating so you need to get use to it now.
If you have a hard time telling someone how you feel be more careful in the future picking someone to date.

letmetellu · May 22, 2009, 01:12 PM

I don't know what kind of gift he gave you but if it is something that you can give back I would give it back and tell him that you are not ready to be considered someone's steady GF but if he wants to remain friends you would be glad for that to happen but for him to stop the intimate greeting when you meet in the hallway.