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    May 17, 2009, 11:23 PM
    I'm 26 and been married 3 years and go soft while I'm inside my wife
    HI I'm 26 and I think I have a problem staying hard me and my wife make love about 3 maybe 4 times a week and 50% I go limp inside her and I don't know why maybe you guys can help me!!
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    May 18, 2009, 04:55 AM

    Have you talked to her, or to your doctor about this?
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    May 18, 2009, 04:58 AM

    You might need to see a doctor, to see if there is a physical problem. Then, if there's NOT, you can think about what might be causing this if it's not medical. Rule out medical issues first.
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    May 18, 2009, 08:53 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bronzebabe View Post
    You might need to see a doctor, to see if there is a physical problem. Then, if there's NOT, you can think about what might be causing this if it's not medical. Rule out medical issues first.
    Whell I dontthink there is a physical problem and no I haven't seen a doctor and yes I talked to about it and she gets upset that it does it and makes her think its her fault then she feels like and I tell her I know its not here fault mabby I have a chemical I'm balance??
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    May 18, 2009, 09:17 AM

    A chemical imbalance would be a physical problem... please seek out a doctors evaluation.

    You need to rule out any physical problems, first and foremost.
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    May 18, 2009, 09:20 AM

    It can be so many things but a trip to the doctor would be my first stop
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    May 18, 2009, 09:20 AM

    So you do think that I should c a doc and should I try some pills first and c if that helps with the problem
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    May 18, 2009, 09:40 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by deathwish View Post
    so u do think that i should c a doc and should i try some pills first and c if that helps with the problem
    Yes we are highly suggesting seeing a doctor about this situation first.

    Pills are a solution to one type of problem, that may not be the problem you are having. ED is caused by many factors and pills are not the only solution.
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    May 18, 2009, 10:07 AM

    Mate, if you seriously don't know Y and or have the slightest idea to u goong limp about 50% of the time then you need a lesson in self analysis, meaning being aware of what goes on in your head and or around you as you do and or say things.

    I have had problems when I've gone limp during sex but I always know why it happened and I can assure most guys it is mostly to do with what we are feeling and thinking during the process.

    I could go on but if no one has any clue to what I'm saying then I feel blessed.
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    May 18, 2009, 10:11 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by hardwaresoftie View Post
    Mate, if you seriously don't know Y and or have the slightest idea to u goong limp about 50% of the time then you need a lesson in self analysis, meaning being aware of what goes on in your head and or around you as you do and or say things.

    I have had problems when I've gone limp during sex but I always know why it happened and I can assure most guys it is mostly to do with what we are feeling and thinking during the process.

    I could go on but if no one has any clue to what I'm saying then I feel blessed.
    So are you so wise that you believe that erectile dysfunction is self inducted?

    There are physical reasons that some men have a difficult time maintaining an erection and it's not caused by their thoughts. All things physically should be ruled out prior to diagnosing the problem as psychological, as you suggest.
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    May 18, 2009, 10:28 AM

    NO CHAT SPEAK!

    This is an ADULT board.

    Any further chat speak will be deleted with no apology or explanation.
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    May 18, 2009, 09:30 PM

    Whell I have been under a lot of stress latley and tired to will that cause what's happening to me
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    May 18, 2009, 09:43 PM

    Do you get hard "elsewhere"?

    1. porn
    2. masturbation
    3. fantasy
    4. girlfriend (had to ask)

    If yes to any of the above, it may be psychological and you need to refocus on your lover.

    If no, then it may be physical, and you need to see if you are in best shape you can be in or if you have diabetes or ED or depression. A doc is likely helpful.

    *(if no, it could still possibly be mental, and worth exploring the reason but the first responses are most likely initial thoughts... )

    Best,
    A

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