I don't think there is really one concrete answer to your question, so all that I can give is my opinion on the ''love'' matter.
From what I gather from your post, movie love is a case of being in love with the person forever and ever, wanting to be with them twenty-four seven. Well, I don't think that exists. I agree with you in saying that you have the initial thrill but are eventually left with a firm foundation of trust. I don't believe that the kind of infatuation that being ''in love'' brings with it can last forever.
Maybe you were wrong for each other. I'm not being harsh, but if you were two halves to a whole, she may have different feelings about love. She would not have felt the urge to keep finding new thrills because she would have been fully immersed in what you guys had. She wouldn't have had needed anything more.
To sum up, I believe that ''in love'' exists, up to a point, but is nowhere near as important as what you call ''standing love''. You can't build a relationship on ''in love''. It's infatuation and rose-coloured glasses. With ''standing love'' you know the other person's flaws and accept them for what they are, love them for what they are.
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