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311076 · May 15, 2009, 12:32 AM

Hi !

I come from a traditional Indian background. I am married happily for the last 10 years also have a lovely son. Before marriage I had an attraction for a guy elder to me ny 4 years, he was from a different community (we Indians are very choosy when it comes to getting our children married to someone from a different community).
Both of us liked each other, I was very vocal about my feelings he never was. But he would care for me and his actions showed that. Our common friends would ask him if he would get married to me, as I wanted to and told my friends to ask him about it.
He always told them an excuse about our communities and that his parents would disapprove of it.
Finally we stopped contact, I got married but never could forget him. Was always trying to search for his mail-id or his office numbers in my diaries or somewhere but all in vain.
Suddenly one day I saw his profile on a networking site and made up an id and mailed on it. And to my surprise the id turned to be true and we are again in touch.
Though only on mails which also are not so frequent.
I called him up after about 2 years, we were just talking something formal. During the conversation he said to me, "so did u tell your son about how we would meet on the building terrace in the night". This was a surprise to me.
I still have lot of feelings for him, though I love my husband a lot.
I want to know what was it that was happening between us. And the way I still love and dream about him, does he also feels or has felt about me the same way?

worried123 · May 15, 2009, 07:24 AM

I think you should leave the past to the past and be thankful of what you have.
I am a big believer in "everything happens for a reason" so maybe the two of you were only meant to be friends or a flame like you said. I don't think you should risk your happy life with a husband and son to something that may not even be something he wants. This curiousity is what causes a marriage to break-up and not only hurt your husband but your child and everyone around you like your family, friends and community.