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May 12, 2009, 06:19 PM
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No pre-; no std.No condom?
My boyfriend of almost 2 years and I have been sexually active for a very long time and every time we have sex we always use protection; however, we'll go for hours but he can never orgasm during sex while he's in a condom. When we do other things like oral or a handjob he can orgasm very quickly, but he never has with a condom. Something I have noticed about him since we first started being sexual was that he does not produce pre- or any other type of liquid in any amount before he orgasms. I researched it and found out that while most men do, some do not and apparently he does not. I'm beginning to feel like I'm not really doing my job by not being able to make him and so I was thinking about trying sex without the condom because he doesn't pre. We're both clean so that isn't an issue, but I am still worried about pregnancy even if he pulls out. If we stop close enough before he cums so that its not inside me, would there still be that risk?
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May 12, 2009, 06:29 PM
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The only and absolute only way to not get pregnant is abstinence. Yes there is still a possibility in that matter even if small. Have you tried birth control?
... But seriously the only way to not get pregnant is don't have sex. :/
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May 12, 2009, 06:34 PM
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Have you tried making sex "all about him"... as he doesn't need to hold back or wait? Oral on you to completion and then his turn with protection?
Also... what does foreplay involve? Positions used? What areas of his body seem most sensitive? Ears? Neck? etc...
Does he get hard easily or not?
During sex does he lose a quality erection?
Do you ever stop for a rest and then resume?
Could I ask more questions? Yes...
Please tell more if you can...
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Uber Member
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May 12, 2009, 06:39 PM
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Oh he has pre---, everyone does... just some more than others.
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Expert
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May 12, 2009, 07:04 PM
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Yes there is pre and you can get pregnant
Does he masterbate a lot, this is a side effect of excesssive masturbation he gets so use to the "feel" that they can not finish without a similar "feel" that he gets from your oral or hand job.
Sounds to me, without hearing more, he needs to stop all of his masturbation
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May 12, 2009, 07:23 PM
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My first question is, why aren't You on birth control? This would make it MUCH safer. And, much less likely for you to get pregnant.
Second, I will tell you that even if You can't see the pre-ejaculate fluids, they ARE there, and pulling out is NOT a reliable birth control method. I don't recommend it.
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Pets Expert
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May 12, 2009, 07:40 PM
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There's a name for people that use the pull out method, it's parents.
Time to check out the birth control pill option. Even then there's a chance of pregnancy, but much more reliable then the pull out method.
As for not being able to ejaculate in a condom, something doesn't sound right.
It may be time to spice things up a bit. Try a different position, try a different routine, throw the routine out the window and do something wild. Just a thought. :)
Good luck.
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May 12, 2009, 11:17 PM
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If I am not on any sort of oral contraception, I won't let an unsheathed penis anywhere near my vagina, let alone use the pull out method!
Sad fact of ife is that some guys do find it hard to come when wearing a condom.
There are some great brands out there that sell 'super sensitive' condoms. They are much thinner than regular ones but just as strong and (apparently) the man can feel a lot more than he coould wearing a thicker rubber one.
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May 13, 2009, 01:35 AM
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Originally Posted by shazamataz
If I am not on any sort of oral contraception, I won't let an unsheathed penis anywhere near my vagina, let alone use the pull out method!
Sad fact of ife is that some guys do find it hard to come when wearing a condom.
There are some great brands out there that sell 'super sensitive' condoms. They are much thinner than regular ones but just as strong and (apparently) the man can feel a lot more than he coould wearing a thicker rubber one.
I agree! My husband used to find it hard to come with condoms, because they decreased the sensitivity of the penis. I have to say, they decreased mine too - it felt like the old 'shagging in a plastic raincoat' trick!
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Expert
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May 13, 2009, 06:05 AM
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Originally Posted by Altenweg
There's a name for people that use the pull out method, it's parents.
You stole my line!
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Full Member
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May 13, 2009, 12:39 PM
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Have you tried different kinds of condoms? Some are really thick. There are little boxes you can get of a few different types to use. I would recommend oral Birth Control pills though.
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May 15, 2009, 08:55 AM
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There's always a risk. But my boyfriend and I always do it without protection, we used to though. But the sex is best without the condom.
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May 15, 2009, 09:56 AM
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Having sex without protection is so irresponsible. Just because it 'feels better' You may bring a child into the world. It's just so selfish. Get on BC pills or Depo. There is an alternative to condoms. But no protection should NEVER be an option unless you are married and trying for a baby.
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