[HighandDryinnNy]

Ok, I am very unsure and nervous about asking this, I don't want to seem like a weirdo or an "outcast". I also don't want this to affect my credibility, but I am just downright lonely. I recently (9months ago) moved about 2 hours south from my hometown, and although I have a wonderful group of friends where I used to live, I find myself more often than not, pretty lonely. I am very outgoing, with fairly normal interests and I have been compared to (in looks) Christina Applegate and ( oh god am I really this desperate) Kendra from the Girls Next door , so I am not unattractive(well I don't think so). My question is, how do I go about making friends with my age group and not look weird or desperate? I am in my mid 20s, but "clubbing" and bar hopping is not one of my favorite activities, I am more the kind of girl who has seen every movie from the last 20 yrs and while I am at it, a nice bottle of wine at hand. Ive hung out with my co-workers, but they are just that. I would love to hang with my old friends, but I can't afford to travel there as much as I want. Basically, I'd just like a female (or gay male, they are great) to be friends with, it really stinks that the only companionship I can get are the men who are sexually interested in me.My job is constantly filled with interesting people I'd like to get to know, but again, it comes off as creepy if I say, Oh do you want to hang out sometime, not to mention unprofessional. Any advice?

[Triysle]

Transitioning to a new area and leaving your old group of friends behind can be tough, but I think you should focus more on what you like to do on your own. Friends are nice to have, but they are not an absolute necessity. Figure out how to entertain yourself, maybe go to your local bookstore and grab a new series or get a membership at a local gym. You could register for a class or volunteer at the local medical facilities and other organizations.

There are plenty of things to go out and do, you just haven't found them yet. You don't need a group of friends to do them, either. I know it's rough, and sometimes you just wish you could sit down with someone and chatter about anything for a couple hours. But you have friends back home, call them when you get lonely, or like I said try one of the activities I listed above.

Ultimately, if you figure out what you want and how to entertain yourself, you'll find that people will be drawn to you naturally. Involve yourself in group activities, and be confident in yourself. I know how it feels to seem creepy (it's even worse for guys, trust me), but know that there is at least one other person out there who can connect with you on some level.

Good luck, and feel free to PM me if you want someone to talk to sometime :)

~ Tee

[ajGambino]

It's not creepy if you want to hang out with your co-workers. That's how I met some of my friends. It might seem strange to think so but just give it time. Hang out with them more often and you will be comfortable with them, thus making new friends. It's a great place to start, at least in my opinion.

[I wish]

Do you have any hobbies? There must be a sport or activity that you really enjoy doing? While doing those hobbies, you will find people who have something in common with you and it will be easier to get along with them.

[liz28]

This might sound weird but I thinking outside of the box. I recently joined a swing dancing club and is thinking about joining the gamers club(this is for video gamers). I joined this club at this site that I found while surfing the internet. Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup.com They have many groups in all areas nationwide and your be surprise on how many friends your get a chance to meet. You can even start a group. My group gets together at least 3 times a week. We don't only dance but go out and hang up. Check the site out.

[HighandDryinnNy]

Thank you for all your advice!