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    May 5, 2009, 03:50 PM
    Adoption at 16
    I'm 16 years old.I don't want to say that I hate my parents,but that's exactly what they make me do... hate them.I don't like being here with any of all my parents,can I ask to be adopted by someone else and somewhere else??
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    May 5, 2009, 04:08 PM

    Probably not.

    Your parents have to sign away their parental rights in order for you to be adopted by someone else---and frankly, almost no couple out there is looking to adopt a child of 16 who already hates at least one set of parents.

    HOW do your parents make you hate them? I'd just like to point out that nearly every teenager hates their parents--what's different about YOUR situation?

    We need more details, please.
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    May 5, 2009, 04:18 PM

    Well he can always ask, his parents say no and unless there is proff that his parents are unfit, nothing will happen.
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    May 6, 2009, 08:04 PM

    They're always hitting me,putting me down constantly,they never listen to me... its like they think they can just do whatever they want with me
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    May 6, 2009, 08:21 PM

    Can you talk to a counselor at school, or your pastor/priest/rabbi about what's going on?

    What about another relative?
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    May 7, 2009, 06:41 PM

    My relitives hate me bacause they have issues with my dad... I don't go to church.school counsler?. what will they do?. ive been separated from my parents before because they were pretty abusive... I don't want to have to be taken like that
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    May 7, 2009, 09:42 PM

    If they're abusive, don't you think it's better that you ARE taken from them?
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    May 14, 2009, 05:55 PM

    Well yes... but they're liky in this whole "im changing to be different" stage.is my being taken away again,really going to help?? I'm not being a butt here but I just want to make sure I'm not being lied to

    Here's the full history
    I didn't live with them until I turned 4 and thenmy mom had an affair with some guy and my dad walked out on me.a few months later they decide to get back together and they had my sister.then I had to be taken from them because I went to school with a bad headache and it turns out it not right when your father hits you on the head,they called the police,my mom,and 911.they wanted to make sure I was okay on my brain I guess.I wasn't allowed to see my dad because apperently my mom "didnt know" anything about him hitting me (even though he hit her too) so she banned him from seeing me.I didn't see him for about 3 and half years.my mom and him were still dating,secretly too,but that was useless,they were both seeing different people at the same time.then my mom dumped her boyfriend and SHE started hitting me... I never turned her in or said anything about it because in a way I guess I thought I kind of deserved it for accidentally telling on my dad.and now they're happily married with new kids of all their own,but they still hit me... not as often but it hurts me.they're always putting me down and they practically wipe their feet on me like I'm a mat!
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    May 14, 2009, 09:05 PM

    You are being abused, if that's what's going on at your house.

    You NEED to talk to someone about this. An adult, preferably at your church or school.

    There must be SOME adult that you trust!

    Will being taken away help? Well, at least it will show you that you don't have to live like you are!
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    May 14, 2009, 09:13 PM

    Yes report the abuse to a teacher or school couselor, and they will get social services or youth protective service involved.
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    May 14, 2009, 09:20 PM

    You need to talk to ANYONE. If you still feel that you don't have anyone to talk to, there are many crisis networks in place for you to go to.

    NATIONAL CRISIS - INSTITUTIONALIZED CHILD ABUSE

    Child Abuse and Neglect: Nationwide Directory of Crisis-Lines and Hotlines - Child Abuse: An Overview ~ FindCounseling.com

    800-4-A-CHILD (thats 800-422-4453)

    You need to tell SOMEONE. Go to the emergency room even. They can take care of it for you too.

    Please please please I beg you to get help with this. You CANNOT keep living like this.
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    May 28, 2009, 05:07 PM

    Okay,I will... thanks so much

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