[Fr_Chuck]

There are pron blockers and of course there are pass word to protect the entire computer.

And in the end, a parent grounds and does not allow the chlld to do certain things

[Meredith1978]

He will do whatever you let him get away with. He gets upset that he can only get on with you in the room? Tough. Step up.

Whose name is that phone in? If it is in your name and one of those pics ends up being a classmate (under 18) you can be charged with having child pornography.

When social services comes to your house because of it that is grounds to take away the internet. Period. You're the parent hold him accountable.

[JoeCanada76]

Take away the cell phone, get rid of the cable, and get rid of the internet.

Why has he had this urge to search for this stuff and to have it on his phone.

Influences from home maybe??

[Krazi]

When I was 15 I had centerfolds attached to my shades... the one you pull on and they roll up.

Lol

But searching for major porn online and porn on the cellphone, that's too much.
Either something is up at home to cause this or he is trying to prove/show off w/ the guys at school.

You might want to get more involved w/ him and check his friends out and talk to their mothers to see if anything similar has happened w/ their kid/kids.

[angelgurlama]

The only way he is going to learn is by you taking his privileges away. Having a cell phone is not a right, it's a privilege. Using the internet is a privilege. Taking those away lets him know that he's done something wrong, and you're not going to stand for it. And it will keep your girls from having to see any of that again

[Gemini54]

Take away the cell phone, get rid of the cable, and get rid of the internet.

Why has he had this urge to search for this stuff and to have it on his phone.

Influences from home maybe???

That's a really unhelpful thing to imply/ask.

We all know how predominant and accessible porn is these days. Adults have huge problems with on-line porn, so why wouldn't an immature 16 year old? Some kids just get obsessed by the stimulation and can't stop - he's 16, the hormones are raging and the testosterone is kicking in. (scary) He's also a tech savvy kid who is able to 'pull the wool' over his very worried mum's eyes.

A few things that distraught mum could do:

1. Get some technical advice on how to block the porn on the computer and the phone and put in passwords as well.

2. Tell him he's on probation - he needs to go to counselling and limit his social activities until he takes responsibility for his actions.

3. Get him involved in some physical activity - camping, sport, odd jobs, a part time job. Anything that deflects his attention from the porn, gets him active and engaged in other activities.

4. Get his dad involved, if he's around.

5. Try not to be too punitive around this issue, but make it really clear that it's utterly inappropriate.

Be consistent in your messages and try not to worry too much. Let us know how you go.

[cnvkjfndvjnf]

Just show him your and then let him lick it then he will be good

[cnvkjfndvjnf]

I am just joking tell him he is grounded

[Twink24]

Of course it goes in through one year and out the other, he's 16! If he's going to look at porn he is going to find some way to do it. I would suggest taking away his cellphone and getting rid of his internet on his phone unless he's willing to pay the charges? And put locks onto the computer that prevent certain searches. You have to realize he is entering the age in which stuff like this Is going to be entering his life and maybe you and your husband should have a serious sex talk with him if you haven't already, this could possibly freak him out a little bit and steer him away from inappropriate searches for awhile.

When my 13 year old brother was caught searching porn not only did he get a good talking to but my parents and most of their friends all would tease him about it and he would get extremely embarrassed (and he should be) , which certainly kept him away from using the computer/cellphone for that kind of use.

[artlady]

I have he dose not have a phone anymore i have the laptop computor but he hates it when i say he cannot go on it unless i am in the room but that still dose not stop him from trying to get on to these site..

So you put your foot down and if you had been doing that he would not think he could get away with this behavior.

You put you foot down,unplug the computer and that is that.

If he becomes aggressive with you call the police he needs a wake up call,

If he gets arrested for child pornography he will be in a world of crap.
So its time you decided that he is not the boss and do some tough love and unplug him before he gets into serious trouble.
That's just my opinion.

[Twink24]

If he gets arrested for child pornography he will be in a world of crap.
Thats just my opinion.

Just because he is 16 does not mean he would be looking at child pornography. From previous experience 16 year olds are generally more interested in the normal B.B.B (Big Boobed and Blonde)

[Jake Parker]

Hey hey don't do smthg rash... everything including taking away his phone will make things worse for the both of you... see first of all get him into some sports or get him into some hobbies he'd like... and most probably there is a reason behind it like some girl dumped him or smthg... or he's just a porn addict... for that get help like talk to his teachers about his performance... ie just start
"showing" interest in his life by that I mean a frndly interest not a mommy interest... cause its not just hazardous for your little girl its hazardous and disastrous for him.
The first thing you should do is stop acting miserable and start taking the thing as a menial task,it'll be hard but do give it a try.

[artlady]

Just because he is 16 does not mean he would be looking at child pornography. From previous experience 16 year olds are generally more interested in the normal B.B.B (Big Boobed and Blonde)

Believe me he is looking at girls his age or younger and we need to educate these girls as well.
Point is ,I bet he is looking at young girls ,his age and under the age of 18,there's trouble.
Assumptions aside,he could be in a lot of trouble and Mom too if there is porn on a computer in her home.

[Jake2008]

I think social services would be looking for a needle in a haystack if they thought they could prosecute every teenage boy that looks at porn.

We know that young teenage girls, and girls not yet teenagers think it's a hoot to post pics of themselves online, and to their phones. Some will say they do not have any idea of the consequences, and I think unless they are in a coma in a snowbank in Alaska, they most certainly do know what they are doing.

We are so tied up in the superficial use of these electronic entertainment toys, that we fail again and again to address the why's of this behaviour, when unsupervised use gets out of control and trouble happens.

Any parent who is surprised at what is on their kids computer should be ashamed of themselves. Any parent who allows unlimited use of a cell phone, particularly one with picture taking features, and no cap on texting, also needs to step up and take responsibility when they find porn or anything else innapropriate or suspicious. The cell phone is also used by adults to lure children, as is the computer.

For a 16 year old that does not seem to get that what he is doing is innapropriate, needs to have his toys taken away. No cell phone, no internet access. After that, the parents need to get into counselling with a counsellor who is skilled enough to know how to teach them how to apply appropriate discipline, guidance, and necessary skills to parent affectively.

Just my opinion here, but if this particular 16 year old kid 'keeps looking up porn and girls on the internet', then there is a bigger problem with parents who are unable to stop him.

[artlady]

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Twink24 disagrees: 16 year olds don't want to look at girls their own age because there really isn't anything for them TO look at. All they want are big boobed older 18, 19, and 20 year olds, honestly! I have a brother turning 16 next month, I do know this kind of stuf.

And I have two sons who were teens not too long ago and I saw what their teenage friends were sending them on web cams.We disagree,it is a matter of opinion and not deserving of a reddie!
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