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    kaiangelgirl Posts: 9, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 24, 2009, 07:14 AM
    3 questions about engagement
    1. How long should an engagement last before the wedding?
    2. how old should you be when you first get married?
    3. how do you know if he/she's "the one"?
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    Apr 24, 2009, 07:24 AM

    1. There are no set rules. But the wedding shouldn't happen until the bride and groom can support themselves

    2. I think the phrasing of this question is very interesting. The fact that ask about when you FIRST get married. Is very telling. People make a lifetime commitment when they choose to get married. If they don't feel they can make that commitment then they aren't ready to marry. (Note: I'm not saying people should stay married, people and circumstances change). But if someone is thinking about first getting married, it sounds like they aren't ready.

    When you marry depends on a lot of factors. So there is no right naswer except maybe when you are absolutely sure you both are ready.

    3. This is also a question there is no answer to. But that's one of the reasons for the institution of dating. The purpose of dating is to get to know each other to ensure that marriage is what you both want. And its not a snap decision.
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    Gemini54 Posts: 2,871, Reputation: 1116
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:48 PM
    Interesting questions, I wonder what situation they stem from.

    Life isn't about 'rules', or about when you 'should' do something like marry.

    There is no set answer for any of these questions because it depends on you, your partner and the circumstances. I think that the more time you give yourself to experience life and meet different people in diverse situations the better equipped you are to answer these questions.

    Living life is the great teacher. Being open to new experiences, facing challenges, enjoying being alive, working at something you enjoy and liking different people (male and female) will provide the answers. You may meet a number of people who are 'the one' in your life time - but, they are merely 'the one' for that period and serve a purpose at that time.

    Don't focus too much on rules - focus on living a life you enjoy.
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    Apr 25, 2009, 09:53 PM

    Get to know yourself, and the rest will happen in time, if you let it.
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