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turtlegirl16 · Apr 17, 2009, 07:52 PM

Today was Day of Silence.

I participated because most of my friends are either gay or bi. My mom today after school asked me about my opinion to it all. She said that if you are gay, you are born with it, its like a genetic thing, not a choice. I dissagree with her, I believe being gay is a choice, just like being bi is a choice.

Am I right or is my mom right?

J_9 · Apr 17, 2009, 07:54 PM

Originally Posted by turtlegirl16

Today was Day of Silence.

I participated because most of my friends are either gay or bi. My mom today after school asked me about my opinion to it all. She said that if you are gay, you are born with it, its like a genetic thing, not a choice. I dissagree with her, I beleive being gay is a choice, just like being bi is a choice.

Am I right or is my mom right?

No one is right or wrong. We don't have a scientific answer to that question yet. Right now it is based solely on belief.

turtlegirl16 · Apr 17, 2009, 08:03 PM

My mom said that I could even ask her gay friend, that he would let me know that it is genetic, but I still don't believe her...

Bonnie46 · Apr 17, 2009, 08:16 PM

Hi Turtlegirl16

Actually, there is now scientific evidence of the brain - where they've proved that there is a hormonal difference between heterosexual and homosexual individuals. You can hold your beliefs - I won't argue with you, but I think that your Mom is correct. There are very strong genetic predispositions towards sexual preference, and many homosexual people will tell you that they knew they were born gay - long before they ever hit puberty. If being gay IS a choice - ask yourself this: WHY would ANYONE choose that choice for themselves?? It doesn't make sense. That's like saying that a person chooses to be born with downs syndrome or chooses to be born as a little person or chooses to be born with MS (mutiple sclerosis). No one would wish that upon themselves. What a person CAN choose is whether to hide being gay or deciding to accept it, and be flamboyant and parade around. That's what I believe. Anyway, I'm glad that you have gay and bi friends.

Take care.

sGt HarDKorE · Apr 17, 2009, 08:16 PM

I suggest doing some research and making your own opinion. There are statistics that go both ways, and arguments on both sides.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 17, 2009, 08:27 PM

This is a question that does not have a answer

shazamataz · Apr 18, 2009, 06:35 AM

They have tried to prove it through science but it all sounds pretty inconclusive.

I personally believe that it is something people are born with but that's just my opinion.

A friend of mine had shown gay tendencies since a very young age... when he turned 16 he told us all he was gay...

shazamataz · Apr 18, 2009, 06:36 AM

Sorry, I just had to add this...
Are you gay or straight?

Would you just sleep with another girl because you felt like it?

talaniman · Apr 18, 2009, 06:55 AM

Gays have been around as long as man has walked the earth, but no one knows why they are the way they are. The only thing we do know is they are people too, and deserve the same treatment we all do. You don't have to understand them, just live with them.

shazamataz · Apr 18, 2009, 11:53 AM

Originally Posted by shazamataz

Sorry, I just had to add this...
Are you gay or straight?

Would you just sleep with another girl because you felt like it?

Please read the site rules, my answer was not factually incorrect therefor you shouldn't give me a reddie.

I was making a point that if you couldn't just decide to sleep with a girl then your theory of choice is wrong.

artlady · Apr 18, 2009, 12:07 PM

Recent scientific studies of the brain(pet scans) have shown a difference in the brains of homosexuals that give further credence to the genetic theory of homosexuality.

Years ago,before is was OK to be gay,my gay friend said to me *If it was a choice,do you think I would have chose this*?
The social stigma at the time was akin to being a social outcast.
I am of the mind set that it is NOT CHOICE.

artlady · Apr 18, 2009, 12:11 PM

Originally Posted by shazamataz

Sorry, I just had to add this...
Are you gay or straight?

Would you just sleep with another girl because you felt like it?

She does this all the time with the reddies.I tried to give you a balancer greenie but had to spread the rep.The admin.will take it off ,as she is clearly misunderstanding the reason for a reddie!

sGt HarDKorE · Apr 18, 2009, 12:11 PM

Originally Posted by artlady

Recent scientific studies of the brain(pet scans) have shown a difference in the brains of homosexuals that give further credence to the genetic theory of homosexuality.

Years ago,before is was OK to be gay,my gay friend said to me *If it was a choice,do you think I would have chose this*?
The social stigma at the time was akin to being a social outcast.
I am of the mind set that it is NOT CHOICE.

In school or my school at least they are beginning to teach the causes of homosexuality as part of science classes, and from what I've learned from that, it pushed me further into thinking its NOT a choice as well. But before the classes, I believed it wasn't a choice

shazamataz · Apr 18, 2009, 12:17 PM

Originally Posted by artlady

She does this all the time with the reddies.I tried to give you a balancer greenie but had to spread the rep.The admin.will take it off ,as she is clearly misunderstanding the reason for a reddie!

Thanks artlady I appreciate the gesture :)

Silverfoxkit · Apr 18, 2009, 12:32 PM

I personally believe that there are instances where both possibilities are true. I do believe that many people are born homosexual. That there is a physical reason for it, but I do not believe every single gay individual in the world is true to this scientific reason. Despite the stigma I do believe there are some that are gay by choice. I do not see it as a black and white question. What matters isn't the person's orientation but how the person acts, manners, morals, just the same as everyone else. Being homosexual does not mean someone is a bad person anymore then being heterosexual does. Just my opinion but that's how I feel.

shazamataz · Apr 18, 2009, 12:55 PM

Couldn't give you good rep silverfox but I like your way of thinking :)

starbuck8 · Apr 18, 2009, 01:26 PM

Turtlegirl16 disagrees: this may be hypocritical but I think that's personal.

Turtlegirl16, once again I will ask you, please read the rules and regs of this site! You cannot indiscrimately give a disagree at will.

Alty · Apr 18, 2009, 01:53 PM

My opinion is that you're born gay, but that's just opinion, not fact.

I have gay friends too, and they all knew at a very young age that they were gay.

So, choice? I don't think so.

artlady · Apr 18, 2009, 03:56 PM

I participated because most of my friends are either gay or bi

Why aren't you asking them?
These are your friends? If most of your friends are gay that is a good indication you are as well.People tend to hang with people who are like them.It's all good.You have to be with people who *get you* :)

I suspect from your posts that you are struggling with some issue about your own orientation.

I also sense a lot of anger in you.From a virtual point only but I do.

For example,you have been told that you give out reddies for factually incorrect information. You continue to give them out whenever someone disagrees with your opinion.

You are angry and I think you are in some sort of a issue about your own sexual preference and please know that we will help you to the best of ability.

Being angry about things doesn't do much to change things.

You need to be nicer to people around here if you want anyone to be nice back.

artlady · Apr 18, 2009, 04:23 PM

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