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    Codylover101 Posts: 38, Reputation: 2
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    Apr 3, 2009, 08:57 AM
    Known as grandma to be mom, and real mom to be sister!
    So I'm 12 years old and last summer the "secret" came out. The whole Summer of 08 sucked "butt" every signal day my "mom" and "sister" fought. Now there fighting for mine and my other sister's love I still call my "grandma" mom just not around my "real" "mom". Its sooooo weird to be around them at the same time. What should I do because they always talk about each other behind each others back. What should I do? Please help!!!!:confused::confused:
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    Apr 3, 2009, 09:16 AM

    Hi precious young woman, try telling them individually in a nice manner how it make you feel inside when they are constantly arguing and talking about one another.Tell them that you love them and ask them, would they please stop doing this, so it will not disrupt your life and theirs.Peace
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    Apr 3, 2009, 09:29 AM

    I'm not sure what this "secret" is, but this sounds like a whole lot of drama between your mom and your grandmother.

    You and your sister should tell your mom and your grandma that you all need to sit down for a talk. Tell them how this is affecting you and your sister, and that they are hurting the relationships that they have with all of you. These are adult issues, and they should know that.

    I'm sorry that you are being put in the position of being the grown up in this situation, but maybe if you step up and show them how childish they are acting, they will see that they can't be doing all of this fighting and talking behind each others backs, in front of you and your sister.

    They are the adults. Your are the children. They have no right to be doing this to you, and you need to let them both know that you aren't going to listen to them speak badly of each other in front of you. They need to resolve their differences, and keep you out of this. This is not your fault. These are their problems, and they need to know how you feel about this.

    Good luck, and I'm sorry you have to deal with this nonsense.

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