[JudyKayTee]

I agree, that is true it will depend on the individuals. May I ask what are the religious beliefs of you and your spouse?

He is deceased - he was Orthodox Jewish, spoke Herbrew, went to Hebrew school; I am Christian, raised Catholic. We had very different religious beliefs but the same values. He was an honorable and honest man and I hope I am an honorable and honest woman - we just worshipped in different ways.

We discussed the religious differences in the very beginning. I understood as much as I could (being raised in another religion) but when he died I respected his wishes, didn't force my beliefs on his family, even though I didn't quite understand the customs.

He was a good man and if I had let religion stand in our way I would have missed 5 years of happiness.

[Golden_Girl]

He is deceased - he was Orthodox Jewish, spoke Herbrew, went to Hebrew school; I am Christian, raised Catholic. We had very different religious beliefs but the same values. He was an honorable and honest man and I hope I am an honorable and honest woman - we just worshipped in different ways.

We discussed the religious differences in the very beginning. I understood as much as I could (being raised in another religion) but when he died I respected his wishes, didn't force my beliefs on his family, even though I didn't quite understand the customs.

He was a good man and if I had let religion stand in our way I would have missed 5 years of happiness.

I am sorry to hear that. It is also hard to find a good man. Yes two different religions, and yet we are People of the Book. That is good that the two of you were able to set aside your differences to share one major aspect... love.

[Golden_Girl]

That is such a great loss. Possibly he never really left, although he is not here in physical form anylonger. But, you will have your chance to see him again someday, so that must bring some peace. I knew love only once, and I still stuggle with the loss of my marriage as we are now divorced. At the time we shared the same religion, but we were from different countries with different cultures. Although it has been 3 years since the divorce, I still grieve about him and the marriage as though it was a death, as he had moved back to his country and I will never see him again. But, he and his family were abusive which makes it an unomfortable challenge for me.