Originally Posted by
wisher
Oral sex gives men more pleasure, but a little for women.
I disagree. Sort of.
Put a gun to my head and tell me to get you off or else and ill use my mouth to do the deed.
Not to say a steel hard c0ck can't get a woman there, but really... the tongue can do great things when you don't follow a porn script play by play.
I know my lovers body completely. Know what positions she's most responsive to. Know what things to hold back until late in the game to push her over the top.
When all is said and done, oral done right on her is going to get her to climax damn near all the time.
I'm not saying you are completely wrong. Men, including me, are often too focused on the wrong things at first. We go too fast to the cl!toris, ignoring other areas of pleasure. We are too impatient. Too quick. Not willing to let sensual tension build.
Oral sex on a woman is not necessarily easy.
On a guy its usually some version of "push/pull/repeat" with the lips engaged.
With a woman, it can be completely different. One lover loved a thrashing of the cl!toris with a tongue or wet finger. The next lover literally shoved me away from her when I did that... the "money" move on the previous lover absolutely irritated the p!ss out of the next.
So... its true.. oral on a guy might be often better than oral on a woman when you are considering inexperienced lovers... but with experience, oral on a woman, in my opinion, can bring her to orgasm with greater frequency and perhaps set her up for multiples with subsequent intercourse.
A last point... after a great oral session in which I drove a lover to a strong orgasm I asked what I did differently this time.
She couldn't tell me.
I can do the same "great moves" every time and it doesn't ensure a thing. More pressure. Less pressure. More suction. Less. More wetness. Less wetness.
There is no perfect formula.
So... don't assume oral isn't good for the woman... and don't assume all men should know how to make it good. It takes time and patience and practice. And sometimes it doesn't work when all is "right"... and sometimes it works despite yourself.
All you can do is be open to your lover... talk to him about what feels good. What doesn't. Be patient. Make him be patient.