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Bellagrace19 · Mar 21, 2009, 08:00 AM

All right, I was kind of "on-the-fence" about asking, or inviting opinions on my situation. But I have had great expericences with this site, and the "adult" answers that I receive. So here goes...

The Sex has been great, out of this world. But its kind of getting into the same pattern or routine, but its still GREAT! The anticipation for us to meet up again, is spectacular, that turns me on so much, as well as him. We kind of do like a "strangers" thing. We will meet up and use his truck as our bedroom, that was a great turn on, and its still going strong and works. So no problem there. The TEASIN is PLEASIN.. ha, the actual thing is OMG! I'm not bragging in no way, I think its just the chemistry and the anticipation that makes it so good. So I am not dissatisfied in no way, nor is he. Let me get to my question...

What are some fun, maybe exciting, thrilling, or even just plain sweet ways that I can turn him on even more? Maybe there are certain techniques that work for you or that you know that works, or a position.. I want to know. The whole thing is.. my partner makes me "go" usually 2 or 3 times, but my problem is that he doesn't. He is strong minded, and that makes him last a long time, but its like a little game that he is playing. And I want to make him! He swears that he wants to, and that I am such a turn on, but he doesn't. So its like a game, that I can't make him. Give me some sure thing suggestions, that'll get him. And it'll be our little secret... haha!
P.S. Any suggestions about good vehicle sex is accepted, we like that. It's spicy! (Please nothing over-the-top.. No anal, No oral, or Toys. All hands on, self inflicted sexual satisfaction!

Thanks so much to you all! ;)

excon · Mar 21, 2009, 08:09 AM

Originally Posted by Bellagrace19

(Please nothing over-the-top..No anal, No oral, or Toys. All hands on, self inflicted sexual satisfaction!!

Hello B:

Your post was great - up until the last sentence...

You're looking for NEW things to do, but you apparently haven't tried the OLD things yet, or you don't want to...

The answer to your question IS, of course, giving your guy the best blow job he's ever had (if he's ever had one).. If he hasn't, get ready to blow his mind too...

But, if you think oral sex is over the top, then I can't imagine what else you might think would work.

excon

Bellagrace19 · Mar 21, 2009, 08:19 AM

Originally Posted by excon

Hello B:

Your post was great - up until the last sentence....

You're looking for NEW things to do, but you apparently haven't tried the OLD things yet, or you don't want to...

The answer to your question IS, of course, giving your guy the best blow job he's ever had (if he's ever had one).. If he hasn't, get ready to blow his mind too...

But, if you think oral sex is over the top, then I can't imagine what else you might think would work.

excon

Thanks Excon.. and to answer your reply. Yes, I have tried oral, but kind of "ify" about it. I have terrible gag reflexs, first excuse. And not sure if its what he likes, second excuse. I guess perhaps, I'm looking for tips, of further excitement, arousal, foreplay, positions, have any suggestions. Thanks for replying.

jjwoodhull · Mar 21, 2009, 08:21 AM

I agree with Ex - oral is a normal, very satisfying part of sex. If that is something that you do not or will not do, then you are missing out on a lot.

I am also unclear - are you saying that your boyfriend does not climax during sex? Or am I reading it wrong? If that is true, then there is an issue there. Is it medical? Or psychological?

excon · Mar 21, 2009, 08:36 AM

Originally Posted by Bellagrace19

Yes, I have tried oral, but kind of "ify" about it. I have terrible gag reflexs, first excuse. And not sure if its what he likes, second excuse.

Hello again, B:

Uhhhh, it's WHAT HE LIKES! Once you GET that, you will learn to give good head, and you'll love it too.

But, hold on Young Lady... You're not to be left OUT of this equation. Your parts are equally scarf-able. In fact, MOST woman can't get off with vaginal sex, but oral clitoral stimulus BLOWS their minds...

So, the same thing is true for your boyfriend... Once he sees how much you get off on it, he's going to want to do it to you ALL the time... You're going to have to show him HOW, though. You'll probably have to masturbate to climax for him. Let him SEE how you touch yourself. Teach him to pleasure you.

Watch him wack off too. Why don't you try it together? Believe me, it's WORTH it.

excon

Bellagrace19 · Mar 21, 2009, 08:41 AM

Originally Posted by jjwoodhull

I agree with Ex - oral is a normal, very satisfying part of sex. If that is something that you do not or will not do, then you are missing out on alot.

I am also unclear - are you saying that your boyfriend does not climax during sex? Or am I reading it wrong? If that is true, then there is an issue there. Is it medical? Or psychological?

I apologize, I should clarify.. I am uncertain if he does or not, honestly. I think maybe he is keeping it a secret. He moans, makes noises, the whole nine yards. But he claims the he is so strong minded that he doesn't. He has also said that he is scared to because I currently have two little ones, however, we do use a condom, and I have the Mirena. So maybe he's just not telling me? This whole thing is sort of new, we have been best friends for about 3 years, and just recently started having relations (we both knew that we wanted to, but didn't want to ruin the friendship and finally decided we were ready) And I was joking with him and said "I bet all it will take you is about 3 minutes...." and he said.. "I bet you can't." He knows that I am dying to know, so possibly he's hiding it?? He shows all signs. Anyway, that's what my question is, I want to know something that will for sure pop his firecracker.. ha. And any personal experiences or suggestions that will spice up or mainly keep up the "best sex I've ever had."
P.S. Thanks for your reply! Oh, and maybe I should add, he is 20 years older than myself.

smoothy · Mar 23, 2009, 06:04 AM

Refusing oral and anal, or even toys leaves out a LOT of possibilities and even more variety. Take my word for it... however with that said ,its your body, but keep in mind many people would consider that boring or even prudish. And I am glad I passed over the several women I had dated that felt that way.

Bellagrace19 · Mar 23, 2009, 06:26 AM

I'm kind of not getting the answers that I hoped for. Maybe I should re-word my question.. Let's see.. My question wasn't saying that I haven't or don't try oral, toys, anal, etc. I just want to know some techniques or positions, secret little moves that people can let me in, something to shock him, or catch him off guard. (*Anal- I have tried that, really enjoyed it during my pregnancy but now, it hurts:confused:)
Thanks to all you that reply or have replied, I appreciate your time in addressing my situation!

smoothy · Mar 23, 2009, 07:19 AM

Originally Posted by Bellagrace19

I'm kind of not getting the answers that I hoped for. Maybe I should re-word my question..Let's see..My question wasn't saying that I haven't or don't try oral, toys, anal, etc. I just want to know some techniques or positions, secret little moves that people can let me in, something to shock him, or catch him off guard. (*Anal- I have tried that, really enjoyed it during my pregnancy but now, it hurts:confused:)
Thanks to all you that reply or have replied, I appreciate your time in addressing my situation!

OK, that totally changes the question with that clarified. THe anal... if its been a long time between doing that, you likely have lost the concience control that would allow you to relax. Its one of those things you have to do with some regularity to overcome that. Do it once it only twice a year for example then its likely to be uncomfortible. A caveat being if you have hemeroids now you didn't have then.

Now as far as positions are concerned, a lot has to do with your size, his size, and differential size between both of you. Not really any one size fits all answer to that. But for me the cowgirl, (her on top facing him) has always been a favorite of mine. She can adjust for best fell and I have both hands free to do whatever.

Now on oral something that will really catch him off guard... is slipping a well manicured finger up his butt when he's getting close. I'm sure you can tell at that point if you've done it enough. Disclaimer here being a few guys will freak out if you do... but far more will like the extra stimulation.

Bellagrace19 · Mar 23, 2009, 08:07 AM

Originally Posted by smoothy

OK, that totally changes the question with that clarified. THe anal....if its been a long time between doing that, you likely have lost the concience control that would allow you to relax. Its one of those things you have to do with some regularity to overcome that. Do it once it only twice a year for example then its likely to be uncomfortible. A caveat being if you have hemeroids now you didn't have then.

Now as far as positions are concerned, a lot has to do with your size, his size, and differential size between both of you. Not really any one size fits all answer to that. But for me the cowgirl, (her on top facing him) has always been a favorite of mine. She can adjust for best fell and I have both hands free to do whatever.

Now on oral something that will really catch him off guard...is slipping a well manicured finger up his butt when hes getting close. I'm sure you can tell at that point if youve done it enough. Disclaimer here being a few guys will freak out if you do....but far more will like the extra stimulation.

Hahaha.. thanks! Guess I'm laughing because I just had a manicure/pedicure. Hmm, on that , I think I would be a little nervous about that. I'm usually the one that iniates anything.
To answer you size statement, I'm a little busty, hippy, a booty, 5'4, and 140pds, him... I'd say 165, slender, tall.
True on the anal, I think when I was pregnant, I was a little more relaxed? We have been trying to get me used to it once again, but still feels different.. so we have just been doing the whole finger thing to get used to it
Thanks for everything!

smoothy · Mar 23, 2009, 08:34 AM

Originally Posted by Bellagrace19

Hahaha..thanks! Guess I'm laughing because I just had a manicure/pedicure. Hmm, on that , I think I would be a lil nervous about that. I'm usually the one that iniates anything.
To answer you size statement, I'm a lil busty, hippy, a booty, 5'4, and 140pds, him...I'd say 165, slender, tall.
True on the anal, I think when I was pregnant, I was a little more relaxed?? We have been trying to get me used to it once again, but still feels different..so we have just been doing the whole finger thing to get used to it
Thanks for everything!!

You aren't so large the cowgil won't work.

As to the finger... give it a try sometime, only way you will know how he reacts to it.

As to the anal, go easy, do the one finger, two finger then three finger thing... get to three and you are ready. Try to do it at least once every few weeks and you should be able to maintain the control to relax on command. When you have that control it can be a really fun enjoyable act to have in your bag or tricks.

chrissymarie · Mar 23, 2009, 11:51 AM

I think most of the excitement your man gets from sex is from the wait before sex... it's the intensity of the anticipation to not only please you but please himself too. You should be thrilled you man doesn't want ejaculate before you do 2 or 3 times... (My man is the same way... ahhh :) )I think the only way to add to his sexual pleasure is to tease him even more... Maybe push him away a little during sex... pretend you have something urgent to do while you having sex so you have to leave... where crotcheless panties for easy access or no panties at all... I have a pair of underwaer I order online that have a lock on the crotch area and I tell my man if he want some he has to convince me to give him the keys or he has to find the keys himself... he really enjoys that your man might too :)

It seems your man might really really enjoy pleasing you more than the sex itself. This is the way its supposed to be! I think he'd really enjoy if you bought some bondage straps for you two to use as well.

chrissymarie · Mar 23, 2009, 11:54 AM

Also for your terrible gagging I've found some throat numbing spray at my local porn shop. It works great and is minty too. Just a suggestion...

nikosmom · Mar 23, 2009, 12:10 PM

As the guys said, a blow job is the best way to get him going. As for gagging, I don't but it may help if you just relax your throat. Don't think about gagging and you're more unlikely to do so. Move your tongue out of the way, you're more likely to gag if you've got your tongue blocking the back of your mouth trying to prevent the gagging. Just relax and take him all in.

Position may help too. Sit on the side of the bed with him standing in front of you then you are more comfortable and can focus. Don't forget that your tongue is a key player in the action. Move it from side to side as you go up and down. Try swirling around the head before you take him in. Massage his boys while you're doing it. Just enjoy him like he's a popsicle on a hot summer day.

Another key is to enjoy it- men love knowing that you like pleasing them. You'll know he finishes when there's a party in your mouth.

Synnen · Mar 23, 2009, 12:28 PM

You don't have to shove the penis down your throat to give a good blowjob.

Use your tongue and lips and teeth (LIGHTLY! ).

smoothy · Mar 23, 2009, 12:51 PM

To end the gagging takes practice... Wife suffered from that at first too. Trick is a couple times during the session is to let it hit the back of the throat... don't hold it there. The more you do it the less you will hit an immediate gag reflex... when you find you don't chock right away you can hold it for a second... then over time 2 seconds then 3 seconds just a few times every session. Eventually you will overcome the gag reflex but it will take time... and the desire to do so.

Patience is the first thing to remember. After all Rome wasn't built in a day.

And like Synnen said... thats not all there is to it... its just one of many tricks that make what you do and how you do it uniquely yours. And that's right... no two women I ever dated did it like any other. Every one had their own unique style.

nikosmom · Mar 23, 2009, 01:13 PM

Originally Posted by Synnen

Use your tongue and lips and teeth (LIGHTLY!!).

Yes, lightly! Ask him how he likes it, some guys like different things. Some like teeth, some don't. Cold mouth, warm mouth. Ask him and see what he says. He'll be incredibly turned on knowing you care enough to try.

Bellagrace19 · Mar 23, 2009, 03:39 PM

Originally Posted by chrissymarie

I think most of the excitement your man gets from sex is from the wait before sex... its the intensity of the anticipation to not only please you but please him self too. You should be thrilled you man doesnt want ejaculate before you do 2 or 3 times... (My man is the same way... ahhh :) )I think the only way to add to his sexual pleasure is to tease him even more.... Maybe push him away a little during sex... pretend you have something urgent to do while you having sex so you have to leave... where crotcheless panties for easy access or no panties at all... I have a pair of underwaer I order online that have a lock on the crotch area and I tell my man if he want some he has to convince me to give him the keys or he has to find the keys himself... he really enjoys that your man might too :)

It seems your man might really really enjoy pleasing you more than the sex itself. This is the way its supposed to be! I think he'd really enjoy if you bought some bondage straps for you two to use aswell.

Thank you! You were very very helpful! You see it from my point of view!