[a-s-m-i-8-9]

Hey everybody
I hate my parents
Don't be surprised
Cause if you should be surprised then I hope u'll be because of my mum and dad
So I'm 19
I have no boyfriend because I choose to not having one and to avoid problems with my parents I'm a good student
I don't cause problems
I'm home before my limit time
Even though I don't go out so much

They don't let do lots of things I don't know why

So my best friend of 14 years is in another country I haven't seen her in 8 months
And she invited me to sleep in her family house
So I went to my mum and asked her and she said to me that I cause so much problems and stuff and when I went to dad he said to me NO outside house
c'mooooon I'm sad because of them
I hate them
And don't say that I'm just mad at them No truly I hate them
I think they love my brother and sister more than me
I'm just a leftover to them
That makes me cry all the time :(:(

[ztealthz]

Hi, I understand your frustration and do no how you must feel. There surely must be more than that to hate your parents though? As far as I am concerned, you are old enough to make your own decisions and if you are not happy living at home then I would consider talking to your parents first. If this is not possible, I suggest you seek help via. The Citizens Advice Bureau. Please do not do anything too rash until you have had the opportunity of seeking help from people that may have the experience and will be able to advise you accordingly. Wish you all the best - Chaz

[a-s-m-i-8-9]

Thank you chaz
I just have to say I'm not american
Here things are different
We don't leave home at 18
And if I said this to anyone here
They might say ( no they are your parents it's for your best interest)

[tammerzrocks777]

I think that you need to talk to your parents and if they don't listen than you should make your own decision... maybe all you need is to move out. It sounds like you are responsible... so why not give it a try being in charge of yourself. I am no professional this is just what I did with my controlling parents. I moved out on my own and have been making my own decisions since. There is nothing wrong with having a little independence. It's ultimately up to you what you do all everyone else can do is give advice.

[Diehardrocks92]

I understand the feeling my mam favors my sister over me you should tell them what your feeling and if they dont listen make them and if living there becomes impossible your 19 now your adult move out and do wants est for you and your mental help and dont always work towards what your parents want xx

[Fr_Chuck]

Often children don't understand caring and concern and protection as love. Parents who don't love would ot care what you do

[a-s-m-i-8-9]

Diehardrocks92 you are Sooo Right thanks for explaining what I meant

Like I said I'm Not American
In Our Country We don't move out
We just stay in our parents house
And now I'm studying in another city but my father works here too Soo..

[Diehardrocks92]

yea well you'll just have to work something out that works for everyone and keeps you all happy xx

[a-s-m-i-8-9]

I hate my father

[redhed35]

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[a-s-m-i-8-9]

He always want to keep me with him living with him in my mum
I just want to go outside my city
Go be on my own
But they won't

[a-s-m-i-8-9]

He always want to keep me with him living with him in my mum
I just want to go outside my city
Go be on my own
But they won't

[Jake2008]

I don't know where you are, but you seem to lack maturity in my opinion.

At 19 years old, you shouldn't 'hate' your parents, you should be past that stage in my opinion. Instead, you should be able to sit down with them, and discuss what you see as an imbalance in your relationships.

You want more freedom, they want to keep you where you are. They probably don't understand why you need your independence, anymore than you understand their need to keep it from you.

Please try to talk to them as an adult. Maybe get an aunt, or grandparent, brother or sister, to sit in and help negotiate some understanding.

Being resentful will blind you from trying other ways to communicate, and you may surprise yourself and actually be heard.

[rubyGM]

That sucks but you should provide more info on why they treat you badly or why they favor your sister and brother.

I come from a abusive home and I can understand why you might hate your parents. But at age 19 you should try to be more independent and try living on your own. It seems like that is the only way they will get off your back. Plus you get to see things through a new perspective and maybe you will understand why they do the things they do. Till then cheer up and try finding your independence. :)