[Jamez]

Would you rather date around while waiting for the perfect person to show up, or not date at all until you meet the perfect person?

[Krs]

From experience :-

Don't search for your perfect partner, because if you do it will never happen, when you stop searching the right person will appear.

So go out there and have fun...

[J_9]

If you don't date around how are you going to find the perfect person?

Ya got to break some eggs to make an omlet :p

[talaniman]

Get out and have fun and find out about yourself and then you'll know when the perfect person shows up. You don't think he's going to ring your door bell do you? In my view that is a little unrealistic.

[valinors_sorrow]

Mathematicallly is stands to reason that the more you mix it up with people, the more likely you are to find a match -- so whatever method you want to use, dating, hanging out with friends, church, hobbies, classes, etc -- is all good! The point is to use this mixing-it-up time to practice and hone your social skills because, trust me, when you find your match, you will need them!

(okay, cue the "Caberet" song now LOL :p )

[aqua@home]

I think it's better to date for a while before deciding to settle down. I think it's a good idea to get to know people. It can take some time before you realize this might be someone you want to share your life with. I agree that no one is perfect, so I think I would give up on finding the "perfect" person. Everyone will bother you in some way or another.

[talaniman]

Yeah, even my perfect wife drives me nutsy bozo sometimes and I know as perfect as I am she would rather be somewhere else.

[valinors_sorrow]

Nutsy bozo, huh... LOL, I am like immediately stealing that term!

[JoeCanada76]

How can you find your perfect partner if you do not date? That sounds kind of odd to me.

[Krs]

Jamez agrees: I completely understand what you mean, but sometimes I'm just really sick of relationships and just want to focus on other things in my life such as work. But then I'm also afraid that I just give up, I will grow old alone.....

I was like you before I met my hubby. I meet him when I was 19, fairly young but I was out and about from the age of 16.
Focus on your life and future more then anything, but when you go out, go out with no intention of searching for your girl, go out with mates and enjoy it, go with the flow.

How old are you?

[s_cianci]

Definitely date around. Also realize that there's no such thing as the "perfect person."

[valinors_sorrow]

At the ripe old age of 33, after a lifetime of immense personal failure from being so incredibly messed up and three years working with the professionals (hard work, expensive too) I finally reconciled myself to a life alone. It was okay with me-- I was loved and appreciated by some great friends, I finally had a life and I had me, I had terrific work, health and wealth, well enough to do what I wanted let's say, so it was finally okay that I was estranged from my family AND more so it was all right too that I might not find a mate. I was happy, really happy.

Then I met the man I love, trust and respect and I very nearly passed him up. We've been together now for almost 18 years. My take on love is... you never know!

[YeloDasy]

Well, the question is "would you rather...?" Well, I would rather wait until he rings my doorbell! Haha BUt that will never happen! And I don't think you have to be in relationships and date random people constantly... I think it is the same as getting hobbies, meeting new people, people who have the same interests as you... being social... that's okay too... just be open to going on dates also... but don't waste a lot of time in relationships with people who you know won't work out so you can be open for the one that will be meant for you... just be open to dating different people... but if yo umeet them through your hobbies, you will be more into dating... you will be more motivated and interested... good luck, and have fun!

[Starlina]

Would you rather date around while waiting for the perfect person to show up, or not date at all until you meet the perfect person?

In my opinion, honestly... dating does not really help you find the perfect person... it could, but with serious possible intentions arising with a title that is not intended to be serious will hurt one person of either parties involved... true love arises naturally... so to answer your question... don't "date" just have fun... because if your destiny was never meant to have "the one" then it just wasn't, and you can't really do anything about that either as well...

[AKaeTrue]

I would not seclude yourself from dating people. Dating is really a good way for both people involved to get to know each other. If you are not dating, and you think you found the perfect person for you, how do you know if that person feels the same way about you. Dating does not have to be intimate - just go out and enjoy your dates company - see if sparks fly - if so, great - if not, move on.

[compañera]

Every person you meet everyday is special but nobody is perfect. Accepting anyone from them makes them perfect for you.