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mak_killer · Mar 3, 2009, 09:34 PM

Hi
I have been dating with this girl from last three months.we work togeather.she broke up with her ex and we started dating after month she broke up with him.it has been three months and evrything is going OK and we are in relationship.but she still see her ex because they have common friends.everytime she see him, he tells her that he wants her back.she is really honest girl and she tells me everything and she doesn't want to go back but she said she still have love left for him.that make me rally jealous.I don't know what to do in this situtation

StarCrossedUK · Mar 3, 2009, 09:44 PM

It's a difficult one but first can I just say I admire her for being honest with you. She could have taken a very different route and not told you, then how would have you felt?

My boyfriend has no contact whatsoever with his exes. Every time he has broken up with someone he severs all contact and thinks that exes can't be friends. I however am still good friends, and in fact best friends, with a few of my exes.

She will, no doubt still have a bit of love left for him, it doesn't necessarily mean that she is still "in" love with him. Any person that you shared a deep and personal connection with will always have something like that to you and by the fact she broke up with him proves that there is obviously nothing left there.

My best advice to you is to trust her, maybe go out with her and the mutual friends whilst the boyfriend is there and make it clear to him that she is happy with you (Without being a jerk, because he's obviously upset still). Trust your girlfriend and appreciate that she can be honest with you and don't worry too much about it. If you analyze it and get upset over it, it will more than likely damage your relationship.

StarCrossedUK · Mar 3, 2009, 09:45 PM

EDIT - when her EX boyfriend is there. Typo :)

mak_killer · Mar 3, 2009, 10:06 PM

Thanks for that I think you are right.I was just getting jealous about it.how should react when she tells me all this.

StarCrossedUK · Mar 3, 2009, 10:13 PM

Well, you should be as honest with her as she is with you. Explain that naturally you are a little bit jealous but reassure her that you trust her and if it's important for her to maintain this friendship then you will understand. It may be a pain in the arse but, for what it's worth, you'll win very big boyfriend points. :)

simoneaugie · Mar 3, 2009, 10:16 PM

Tell her what you are feeling. Maybe she can give you the rundown of what's going on in her life without getting too detailed.

A girlfriend is a friend who is a girl. Giving up her life to be only with you is a dream shared by many. Life isn't like that, unless the two of you live on an isolated farm or something. The substitute for, "mine only" is honest communication. That is what she is giving to you, give it back.

mckenzie134 · Mar 3, 2009, 10:28 PM

Get some balls.. she's with you not him! If you want to lose her keep being boy and you soon will be her next ex!!