[pro36]

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It started about 9 months ago. I broke up with my boyfriend and I was really upset. He had been cheating on me. But I had to pretend like it was all okay. Because we had the same friends and he sat beside me in math. So we would talk and I decided to tell him I was talking with this guy that used to go to our high school( he was 3 years older). I told him we were having fun. But then a month later my boyfriend calls me up, middle of the summer, Crying. He said he made a mistake and he wanted to get back together. I gave him one last chance. We broke up again 2 weeks after that because he said it was weird.

So I was very upset. So I started saying I had a boyfriend. This guy that was 3 years older. I thought that if I kept it on the down-low then it wouldn't get out of control. I was wrong. By October everyone knew. I told my ex-boyfriend that I was getting serious and I was having sex with this "boy" and he wanted to get married.

But then I met this guy in my grade and started falling for him. What was I to do. So I "called it off" with this extremely good looking guy, to go out with, lets say nerd.

Yes I have a real boyfriend now. And yes he is a nerd. But I love him. Hes sweet and he makes me feel very special.

But now my ex-boyfriend found the "guy". The guy I had told him I was dating. I don't know what they talked about, but I heard that he told him he has never heard of me in his life.

OHH NO!

Now my boyfriend and my ex-boyfriend and all of our friends are starting to figure stuff out. Its 9 months later and what do I do.

I need to know what the right thing to do is. Do I tell the truth because it's the right thing? Even though once I do I might loose all my friends.

I go home everyday and cry and cry and cry because I screwed up my life so bad. All because I needed a little bit of attention.

Now I have the most amazing boyfriend ever and I might loose him if I tell him the truth. I Plan to tell him on Saturday... tell him everything. Let him know that all I am scared of is losing him over a stupid mistake I made.

Is this the right thing to do? Just looking for a little but of support and advice.

[SassyVixen]

I would tell new boyfriend as soon as possible that you made up a pretend boyfriend and it was a stupid thing to do. Don't play into the drama and try not to make a big deal out of it. Let him know that you really like him and care about him and hope that one silly mistake doesn't change his opinion about you. If he really likes you - he will appreciate the fact that you've been honest with him. Everyone makes mistakes - it's a great way to learn. You will get through this.

And oh - by the way. If he does take a hike - he wasn't worth the time and effort anyway. Better it happens now than in six month. Smile and Good luck!! ;)

[NateStone]

Yup Yup :)
Tell him everything about the pretend BF, explain how much you regret it and you didn't know what you were thinking
If he really likes you he will understand, if he flips out, chances are he's not a great guy in the first place :)

And honey, this whole ordeal is nothing to really be crying over, you only made a mistake.

If your worried about losing your friends if you tell them the truth. Don't Be.
If they are true friends they will sympathize, if they don't then just **** them, it's hard yes but life will move on :) Guarantee it

[oscarlicous]

Did you tell your boyfriend about what happened?

[pro36]

I am going over to his house tomorrow night for dinner. So I plan to tell him then.

[oscarlicous]

So how did everything work out? Good I hope. :)

[giggle_monster]

I think you should tell him the truth and that you was just getting back at your ex for cheating on you and the reason why you lied was because you didn't want to lose him and if he really cares about you then he won't flip out.

[neverme]

Tell them all the truth, if these are real friends you won't lose them because you told a stupid lie while you were in pain.

Tell the new boyfriend I'm sure he will understand.


Then get ready to hold your head high anyway because I'm sure there will be people that will make fun or whatever.

These are the times when you find out who your real friends are.

Also learn a lesson from this and don't lie! It only ever causes trouble.

[ZoeMarie]

I caught this a little late. I was going to say I agree with everyone here, and I was curious how it went too.

[pro36]

I had it all planned out... didn't work.
Because when I got there his mom came home. So I couldn'd do it. I will try this weekend.

[neverme]

Stop trying and just get it done.

Anytime is a good time if your doing the right thing, come on.

Stop making excuses for yourself!

It won't get any easier the longer you leave it.