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Mar 7, 2009, 05:18 PM
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I can identify with your situation. I am a huge cat person, and I've never been able to imagine my life without them. Most unfortunately (indescribably so), I started to become allergic to cats in my early 20's.
My mother had become allergic to cats about ten years before. We had two Siamese cats at that time, but not one of us would have ever accepted the prospect of giving them away. The haunting idea was simply that we wouldn't be able to get any more cats after our two girls passed away. Well, my mom's allergies got a little better over time, and we moved into a house that was so large and open that she didn't have much to worry about in terms of air circulation. So after we lost our old cats to old age, I was allowed to adopt a Persian kitten. Actually, we wound up with two Persian cats and a rescue stray with crossed eyes, and a hooked and broken tail, who we suspect was most likely a Siamese-Lynx. We also had a great Golden Retriever in the mix, and no one in the house was allergic to dogs.
So, fast-forward to the time where my allergies started. It wasn't just me. My mother's allergies, which were annoying but not severe, had subsided greatly, but my sister also began developing a cat allergy. My allergies were somewhat like those you described in your husband, realizing themselves mostly as sneezing and red, itchy eyes. My sister's, though, were worse. The general solution was to keep the cats out of the bedrooms, although I can't say I was ever able to follow that rule. Despite the allergies, my cat slept with me on my pillows, literally with paw in hand.
Relating to your story, there was a noticeable and somewhat significant difference between my reaction (and my sister's) to the Persians and to our short-haired cat. The Persians gave us both less allergic reactions than did the short-hair. The key word, though, is less. The allergies were still there.
I never went for shots, but I did get tested. I tried using air filters, special bedding, allergy meds, eye drops. The drops and meds helped to some extent, but the allergies were always there. Again, giving the cats up was not an option I would even begin to consider. This last year, the two last cats, one of whom I had living with me and the other who stayed at home, also passed on from old age.
In time, I knew I had to have another pet in my life. I really wanted another cat, but I also had to be honest and realistic about the situation. If I were to consciously adopt another cat, I could have been signing up for allergies for up to the next 15-20 years. From the outside, it looks like it might not have been a hard choice to make, but it was heartbreaking. I decided that it wasn't a smart choice (and in my situation, I'm heading into the years in which I'm likely to have children; that was the biggest influence, as I decided that it would be a very bad idea for me to likely be suffering from otherwise avoidable allergies through potential pregnancies). I also love dogs, and I'm not allergic to them. After careful consideration, I decided that I would adopt a dog, and not a cat. I really miss having cats in my life, but I can't say I have any regrets in my decision. I love my dog more than words can express, and I can breathe normally again.
One thing that you and your husband should consider (and obviously bring up with his allergist) is that allergies can sometimes become more severe with exposure. Some people even develop asthma from their allergies. I imagine that you're confident that you would never have to rehome a cat you take in, but you ought to also consider the possibility that your husband's allergies could take an unpredictable turn that could have a much more severe affect on his heath. I really hope that never happens, but you need to be honest about all of the possibilities out there. Some people, like my mother, eventually pull completely out of their allergies. You just can't predict or count on those things. Your husband might really benefit from allergy shots; again, it's something to talk about with his doctor.
If I were you, even though you plan to adopt from a shelter or a rescue (applause! It's the best thing you can do), I think it would still be a very good idea to visit the home of a Russian Blue breeder or rescue and hang out there for at least an hour or two to see if your husband's allergies react. Just holding one, as you described, and especially if you're outside and not in an enclosed space, probably won't give you the most accurate picture possible.
There are supposedly "real" hypoallergenic cats out there that go for about 4 grand and take about 2 years to get once you're on the waiting list. Others claim their cats are hypoallergenic because they don't have fur, but it's really not always true that they won't create a reaction. Saliva and the dander are the biggest culprits. You'll need to speak with your doctor for more suggestions.
The last option, if you're aching for a pet and if your hubby is not allergic to all animals, would be to get another kind of pet instead. This might mean a dog, a rabbit, a pig, a guinea pig... they all make for great pets. Obviously, you would need to be very sure and totally educated before adopting any animal into your lives, but it's something to consider.
I wish you all the best, and I would love an update from you as your story progresses! Good luck!
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