[SHILPA SOLANKI]

Thank you for your response to my earlier question.

I went to the doctor's surgery today to explain the assault.
My doctor asked me to convince my son to see her so that she can refer him for further assessment. I don't know what my son told the doctor but he came out angry and very hurtful towards me.

The doctor stated that my son will be contacted by someone within 48 hours.

My son's emotions are up and down, he is deteriorating daily. He is convinced I am the cause of all his problems. He spends an awful amount of time in the bedroom on the internet. He came back home 14 months ago, every month since then he has talked about going back but it just does not happen. I even took out another loan to help him get back but I don't know what he has done with the money and he is still here. He has drained me of all my resources. I have gone deeper and deeper in debt trying to help him and yet he sees me as the enemy, the one that has messed up his brain.

Today he says he wants to go back to his old life in bournemouth, he wants more money from me so he can be out of this house by mid March. He has threatened to go to my parents to borrow the money. He refuses to sign on for unemployment, he refuses to claim other benefits. I don't even know if he worked at all when he was in bournemouth for the past few years.

I have no way of telling if he is on drugs, I know he does not drink or smoke. I have always had a troubled childhood with him. He has progressively got worse over the last 12 years. He goes away from home for a few years gets himself into debt, abuses his friends trusts and when there is no one else left to help him he comes home and I am left with picking up the pieces. This has been the pattern for the past 10 years.

Only, this time he has become very aggressive, he cannot control his anger lashes out, he wants to see me volunerable. He has smashes whatever that comes in his way.
He has smashed the phone, the crockery damaged the kitchen floor and cabinets, damaged the lounge floor.

The attack on me on Thursday night hitting me on the head with the coffee table, when I said I was bleeding, he stated 'what, a little blood'. He smashed the phone before he hit me. I had to phone for the paramedics on my mobile. He stood there watching me call for help, he even watched both the paramedics treat me. I have a 2 inch gash with 7 stitches. He tells me its my fault that he is what he is.

He now blames me and my parents and sisters for 'messing him' up. He blames me for everything that has happened in the last 6 years.

Any advice you can give me will be very gratefully received.

[twinkiedooter]

From what you have described in this post, your son is bipolar. He is cycling very quickly which means that he needs help now by someone who can control his quickly changing moods. The destructiveness is very indicative of his problem. He is easily manipulating you which is another indication also. He is also showing his hatred towards you which is typical of bipolar behavior. You need to read up on how to live with someone who is bipolar. My guess also as to why he spends a lot of time on the internet in his room is that he's looking at porn (quite typical also).