[mackd7]

I recently split from my girlfriend of 8 months as I found out she'd been with someone else but that's a whole different matter!anyway she got with this other girl.this other girl cheated on her girlfriend to be with my ex!so those two are together now! meanwhile this girl from the other side who'd also been cheated on so these two could get together got chatting and I'd told her I'd been looking at her for a while because she's beautiful and obviously because I was attached I never did anything about it. To my shock horror she said she'd also been looking at me for a while but didn't say anything for the same reasons. Two days later we swapped numbers and started texting each other. Since then we've met up a few times and spent all today together which I enjoyed. Thing is she blows hot and cold all the time, leaving me to wonder exactly where I stand.one minute we're holding each other and kissing the next its like we've never met. But the problem is I'm starting to really, really fall for this girl and feel crap because I'm dreading her not wanting the same which would then make it awkward between us!I'm already shocked that someone like her even looked at me!she is 100% beautiful and I'm so scared of scaring her away. I feel that if I start texting her all my thoughts she's going to think I'm some sort of possesive stalker or something like that! And that I'm rushing her or pushing her into making a decision.the first couple of times we met in the pub didn't go all that well although she said it did, we did have a good time until on both nights my ex was in there pushing the fact she's got a new girlfriend in our faces so that got me wound up and this girl probably thinks "god shes no fun" but I hate it when its in my face! What do I do about this girl?I want her so much that if I can't have her I don't think I could hang around with her because it would be so hard for me!I really don't know what to do!:confused:

[kp2171]

Time to back off and see if she really wants you or whether she just likes the chase.

You're in a bad position... as much as you like her, you need to see whether she's willing to not play games.

If you can't hold back and see... well then you can play games but not cry about it if it all falls apart.

[YeloDasy]

Well, my first reaction was to say... BE YOURSELF! I know that the chase is important and I think you can do both at the same time... say things that let her know you are interested... simple things first... then wait for her to respond... if she doesn't, then wait awhile... that's my advice...

[Wildcat21]

Yes - leave her alone for a while.

One question - did she cheat on you?? My old saying - AND I've NEVER NOT see this be TRUE - NEVER"

"Once a cheater, always a cheater" - Always and forever.

There is some gene is those peoples charters that they convice themselves and justify cheating. These people are bad news - always.

Cheaters will always eventually cheat on you. They probably cheated on someone else to be with you.

If she cheated on you - I would have to advise forget it. Move on.