[jstheidi]

My 21 year old U.S.Navy Daughter is trying to do her own divorce (no children involved) and has filed all the beginning papers, had her (soon to be) EX served. He has agreed to not fight anything and just sit back and let her do her all paper-work. Our question is how do we write a stipulation (exact wording would greatly help here) that she will pay her credit card payments, any outstanding medical bills (on HIM), her car payment, and she is willing to pay HIS car payment for the period of 6 month to give him time to get a job and refinance the loan into his OWN name, if he does not do this within 6 months, she wants the option to take the car back and sell it (it, and the loan pmt is in HER NAME), he will pay his credit card payments, and any medical bills he incurs after the filing of divorce and keep current CAR insurance and UPKEEP on the car he is keeping. We would like the stipulation to cover my daughter in case this lazy man does not pay the car insurance while she is willing to continue paying the payment We would like the option of taking the car back if he defaults in his obligations. They were married for 3 years and the soon to be EX has not worked at all, my daughter was over seas for 23 months total during the marriage and 12 months her husband lived with ME while she was gone. I took care of him. He NEVER worked. I offered him a job but he could never wake up to do the job. He did charge up a LOT of credit card debt and spent her paychecks while she was gone buying music equipment because he wants to be a "Rock Star-Guitar Player". He now lives with HIS MOMMY who is on State Welfare.
Can anyone offer help in how we can write the stipulation up to submit it to the courts so it will cover all the important stuff to cover my daughter.

I appreciate the help in advance.

[twinkiedooter]

I'm not really too fond of the "doityourself" divorces. In such a complicated scenerio that you have put forth I would definitely suggest that you retain the services of an attorney on this one as 1) you don't know the proper language and the attorney does and 2) the attorney can also give your daughter some answers as to how to possibly recoup some of the squandered money. Well worth the money since he's not interested in doing anything so the attorney won't be opposed by another attorney on this.

[Fr_Chuck]

You just list it, 1. 2. and 3. as to what the terms are going to be within the divorce,

Often this is done within a separation agreemet and that is mentioned into the divorce as binding.

If you both agree, the use of an attorney ( a couple hundred bucks) could be helpful