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bobbalina · Feb 12, 2009, 08:00 AM

Hi
Yea I've been talking to this guy... well, actually 2 guys... the 1st one I've never met but we've been texting, talking on the computer and the phone... the other one I have a class with him for 3 hours... the one I've ben talking to on the comp and stuff well he has been in a relationship for 3 years, he said that we should hang out some time... so I asked him to this concert that's happening the 21st of this month and he was like well I wouldn't want to take a total stranger so then I asked him if he'd want to go to the mall or somewhere with me this weekend and he said he couldn't get a ride... now the other guy I like really really like but I'm scared to tell him cause he might turn me down and I'm tired of being rejected all the time... does anyone here have any suggestions?

Justwantfair · Feb 12, 2009, 08:06 AM

My suggestion: From your other posts is you have A lot to work on to be happy with yourself, this is not the time for dating and you don't need another guy's affections to feel special and loved, you HAVE TO love yourself first.

You are not going to continue into a healthy relationship until you love yourself and you need counseling to help you through this time. So my suggestion is NEITHER, you have enough on your plate to worry about.

When you love and value yourself it will be easier for other people to love, value and respect you.

Good luck to you and God bless.

bobbalina · Feb 12, 2009, 08:08 AM

Hmph...

kctiger · Feb 12, 2009, 08:18 AM

Didn't we just talk about this? You DO NOT need a guy to validate you, period. Until you can learn to call yourself beautiful, no one else's opinion is going to matter.

Learn to love yourself, and work on your issues.

HistorianChick · Feb 12, 2009, 08:20 AM

I don't remember your other posts, but this one...

If a guy is in a relationship he is NOT available. Period.

bay23es · Feb 12, 2009, 08:21 AM

Ask the guy you see. If you like him and he rejects you then you move on. If he accepts you may start a good friendship. If you don't ask him you will never know one way or another what may or may not happen.
Don't be afraid of rejection. Rejection most times means a loss for the rejector..
Remember to always pray about you major decisions before you make them.

Romefalls19 · Feb 12, 2009, 08:32 AM

You really need to be alone and work on your own issues. Finding comfort with guys isn't going to work

talaniman · Feb 12, 2009, 05:19 PM

Its one thing to have fun with your guy friends, no strings attached, and another to be afraid of rejection, because you expect too much from them.

Have fun with them both, and keep it casual, and real. If you can't, leave them alone.

bobbalina · Feb 13, 2009, 05:45 AM

Thanks talaniman:):):):):)

artlady · Feb 13, 2009, 05:51 AM

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bobbalina · Feb 13, 2009, 06:51 AM

I don't need a theropist but thanks anyway

kctiger · Feb 13, 2009, 06:53 AM

You also don't need to cut yourself, but you do that anyway... :rolleyes:

neverme · Feb 13, 2009, 08:09 AM

Ok bobbalina if you've got it all sorted then why are you here asking us?

The people here have experiences and insight you obviously can't comprehend.

Seeing a therapist doesn't make you nuts, it makes you a conscious and proactive person. If you are self harming and have self esteem issues it is your reponsiblity to not only yourself but the people that care about you to make attempt to heal yourself.

If I were you I would listen to what the others here have said. They have taken time enough to look back over what you have posted and what you are saying here and give some insightful and helpful advice.

Open your eyes and see what's right in front of you.