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    flowepot55 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 11, 2009, 12:16 PM
    Spicing our relationship up!
    My boyfriend and I have been going out for nearly a year now. Everything is great between us, however, sex just seems to be getting boring, same positions, same kind of kisses.
    How do I suggest spicing things up without hurting his feelings? What kind of things would you suggest? :confused:
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    Feb 11, 2009, 12:56 PM

    Boring after only a year? Ooooooooo that's way too soon for that to happen if you are really good matches.
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    Feb 11, 2009, 01:04 PM

    I'M TELLING IT LIKE IT IS: If you are bored in any aspect of your life, that means that you are a boring person.

    HOw about undergoing some growth in your sexual area? Read, practice sex when alone, try different locations, expand you life-fill it with interesting activities.

    Life is what you make it.

    Men are very willing to cooperate. :D

    Good Luck, :)
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    Feb 11, 2009, 10:48 PM

    My mom used to say that, about being boring.

    You guys may be mismatched. Your expectations may be straining the reality of sex. For sex to be more than mechanics, personalities, moods and the preferences of the moment need to be expressed, either verbally or with body language.

    Seeing your guy as a vulnerable and varying human being may deepen things. Men are so fragile at times. Then they can show incredible strength and focus.

    You don't have to tell him you're bored, just say you want to try this, or that, just to see how it feels. Read erotica and educate yourself about human sexual response. If your brain is in a sexual mode, routine stuff can be intensely erotic. Remember, this is your friend you're getting naked with.
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    Feb 14, 2009, 11:09 PM
    Not sure how open you are in the bedroom but there are multiple things that you could do... anywhere from acting out a sexual fantasy of his to bringing over a friend to play along... Cosmo has a ton of tips as well to spice up your relationships... pornos are also pretty good to watch for tips. Good luck!
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    Feb 14, 2009, 11:50 PM

    I suggest that you may want to role play, dress extra sexy, experiment with different positions, use warming liquids, mainly you should discuss things together about each others fantasies and act them out
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