[naazshru]

Hi to all here is my story I loved a guy... I proposed him he said you are very good friend really I can't loose u... our relation became very strong we two became my best friend rather he also considers me best friend... a girl who was my best friend always said you two are made for each other... but with time they came close and became boyfriend girlfriend I always show that ia m happy for him but I can't see him with someone I feel that girl ditched me what should ido? Help

[DJ28]

Leave him go NC and end it all I'm going through the same heartache right now and its driving me buts, you should never put yourself through that. Don't make yourself a option in someone's life I have learned that, it sucks so much. Here is my story.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ht-296494.html

[naazshru]

leave him go NC and end it all im going through the same heartache right now and its driving me buts, you should never put yourself through that. dont make yourself a option in someones life i have learned that, it sucks so much. here is my story.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ht-296494.html

How I see them everyday?

[zeeniee]

Hi Nazzshru,
I totally agree with DJ28- you should read his post and hopefully will give you all the hope to go NC- and forget them.

[naazshru]

hi Nazzshru,
I totally agree with DJ28- you should read his post and hopefully will give you all the hope to go NC- and forget them.

But see them everyday

[DJ28]

Well you need to stop seeing him everyday and just end it, it will just lead to heartache trust me.

[DJ28]

Really end it now go NC, the longer you keep it going the harder it will be to end it. Right now it feels like to me that I have lost a friend that died. That is how hard it is right now, do yourself a favor and end it. You need to be happy for yourself and not try to have something in your life to make you happy.

[naazshru]

really end it now go NC, the longer you keep it going the harder it will be to end it. right now it feels like to me that i have lost a friend that died. that is how hard it is right now, do yourself a favor and end it. you need to be happy for yourself and not try to have something in your life to make you happy.

But u know what he is in my college ill have to see them together

[naazshru]

really end it now go NC, the longer you keep it going the harder it will be to end it. right now it feels like to me that i have lost a friend that died. that is how hard it is right now, do yourself a favor and end it. you need to be happy for yourself and not try to have something in your life to make you happy.

I mean he is my batch mate

[zeeniee]

Just keep your head down
Go and make new friends
And study hard

[naazshru]

What if he contacts me?actually he says he has no replacement of me in his life...

[DJ28]

what if he contacts me?actually he says he has no replacement of me in his life.......

He's just giving you false hope don't listen to that crap, go into this as thinking it is totally over and that you two will never be together and move on, go NC. If later in the future he would contact you wanting you, then that's for you to decide. Do this for you own good though so you don't have to get hurt anymore.

[talaniman]

You must accept things have changed, and you no longer need them as friends, and let them do their thing without you.

Get some new friends, and stay out of their lives, and stop talking to your ex.

He isn't your friend, and he is making you both look stupid, because your BOTH letting him talk BS to you.

[naazshru]

I mean I'm totally dependend on him... how will I manage?

[Irishgirl]

You need to leave them alone,read your last post - so dependent on him! For what ? Oxegen? You come across as hurt and needy, sorry

[naazshru]

K I got your point I declare here that ill spend more time studying let them know that I am not weak... I can study ten hrs too let them repent... I need your support all out here... I am a dentist by profession

[Irishgirl]

Repent for what.they didn't do anything wrong except get on with their lives,you should too. I'm sorry for being harsh but what do you expect them to do if they don't hear from you in ten hours.think your being slightly childish

[ardahk]

i mean im totally dependend on him................................how will i manage?

Naazshru - I wasn't going to reply on this post but as soon as I read your line above I just had to.

Firstly you should never ever been dependent on anyone, you are your own person and you create your own life, being dependent on someone else, especially someone who doesn't share your view but in any case being totally dependent on someone else is far from healthy.

I am sorry you are going through this pain, we all know what it feels like but you have to distance yourself from him otherwise things will only continue to get worse. Yes they are your best friends but if you can't talk to them about it (your 'best' friends) and they don't see how much this is affecting you, you just cannot stay around - you will go further and further into your hole and be absolutely alone.

What you need to do is:

1. Surrond yourself with new people, you are at college this is not hard.
2. Join a gym
3. Get busy, busy, BUSY
4. Concentrate on YOURSELF

All of this, while not contacting him, will help you realise that you really aren't dependent on him which is what you need to get rid of, otherwise you will never move on to bigger better things.. You need to do this for yourself, not for some hidden agenda of getting him back.

Give it a try - you can't stay dependent on someone, it only leaves you more powerless to act in a rational way which you aren't doing right now.

[naazshru]

K got your point

[naazshru]

k got ur point

Thanks to all... I have moved on topped my examz and you enjoying life