[Mrs2b]

The financial situation of your in-laws is of no consequence. Tradition states that the bride's family pays.

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Is it still of tradition that my mother helps?


She offered because she wants us to have the wedding we deserved 5 years ago.

Its lack of respect I think that his mum cannot even offer to pay for something minial like the wedding cake!

[Mrs2b]

But your brother shouldn't be paying for YOUR wedding.

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Where did I say my borther is paying for MY wedding?

[starbuck8]

For your information starbuck8 - you dont know the circumstances we got married under 5 years ago, which i dont think i should go into detail about. but there we NO reception NO gifts and NO people just my immiadate family and his... It was quite a sad day for me ( for a very good reason) so now feel i am ready to celebrate this with my family and friends - i have all the right NOW to celebrate our love and marriage, where people can enjoy an expensive wedding (which again WE are paying for) and shower us with gifts!

Our small wedding 5 years ago was a sad time for us.. and now i am ready to celebrate

Again, customs or no customs. I find this to be quite selfish behaviour, and I will stick to my opinion of this. The showering of gifts should not occur 5 years after the fact. It should be a celebration of your love, and nothing more. This is not a wedding. This is a renewal of vows, in which case it isn't the fault of others that you had "NO reception," NO gifts," NO people." This was your choice, NO matter the circumstances. NO one should be obligated to pay except for you. NO one should be expected to bring gifts. NO one should have to abide by your rules, because under whatever circumstances, you "delayed" your "day" for five years. It's just that plain and simple.

[Mrs2b]

If you say so...

And I'm sticking to my opinion... Its NOT a renewal of vows...
How can it a renewal of vows if there is no VICAR / Priest to do so?

This is a reception that we never had... its like a wedding with no ceremony!

[starbuck8]

I do, and I did.

[Mrs2b]

This is very stubborn and inaccurate in my opinion

[Mrs2b]

I do, and I did.

Are you married?
Did you get married by the side of your dying parent?

If no... then I don't think you can tell me who or what in accurate or not! Or what or who is selfish!

Just plain and simply RUDE

[starbuck8]

I will no longer entertain your responses.

[Mrs2b]

Great!

[Curlyben]

>Thread Closed<
OP clearly doesn't want helpful advice and is simly being argumentative.