[Sparkyy1325]

My boyfriend of 5 years has been using oxycotin for probably over a year now. Im not exactly sure because he lies and hides it from me. I have told him numerous times he needs to quit and to start by just cutting down. He tries but it lasts about a day. I don't think he is strong minded enough to do this alone but he refuses treatment. He wants to have a career in law inforcement so he thinks having on document he went to treatment looks bad. I wouldn't care that used if it didn't effect our relationship and life style. Im just really worried about him. I feel if I left him because he won't stop he wouldn't even care. He promises me he will always pick me but I just don't know what to do, he is my world and my life but I feel he is picking his addiction over me. I really don't have a question I would just like advice please..

[nike 1]

I dealt with something like this personally. My girlfriend was addicted to percocet. When she didn't have them she would take oxycotin. She would also hide them from me. It wasn't till about a year later that I finally said it's either them or me. She chose me and has been off them since. Those drugs are highly addictive. Once that person feels the need to take them to get them through the day, there is little you can do for them. I was lucky that she chose me over them, but it was after a year of dealing with it. The pills make them feel good, but when they come down from that, they are easily aggitated and depressed. They have to be willing to give them up. I stood by her throughout the quitting process and it wasn't easy. There were times when she would drive me nuts and I felt like giving her a few. But I didn't. It takes a lot to be strong for them and with any addiction, they need the understanding to get them through it. But if he refuses to give them up, there's little you can do and there's only so much of that you can put up with. Best wishes.

[Sparkyy1325]

Thanks a lot for writing back! I'm glad she choose you over the problem.. Im just so stuck cause I don't feel like he is ready to give them up even though he acts as if he would do anything for me.. I don't like having serious talks about it with him cause I don't think they make a difference so I just don't know what I could do.. but I'm really glad it worked out for you maybe ill get lucky

[mishelly3]

Its time you get together with his family if possible and some friends who care about him and get together with an addiction specialist. If youtell him in the intervention tha if he doesn't go to treatment you no longer will bw with him. I know that must be agonizing but you can't live like this you have to think about you and your live. I totally agree if you get a great interventionst and tell him your limits but tell him you love him no matter what that's the key us addicts feel unloved scared and friegned . If you get this channel watch on AE intervention it so awesome, maybe you can even call thm for your help. Us addicts are selfish when were using I thought of myself as like the black widow I would suck people into web(world) and used them for what I need them then I cut thm lose. Drugs is the worst I used for 12 years I used 3 different types of oxycontin It was hard very hard but I've been drug free for 2 years I coulnt of done it with out my familythey told me off but stood behind me while recovering.

Just remember this to shall pass

My thoughts and prayers are with you,

[Choux]

Addicts *always* pick their addiction over anything else, girl.

You're going to have to get a grip on your life while you are young and can change and grow. That will be the road toward happiness for you. Relationships with addicts is the road to misery and lovelessness.

Best wishes in the future, :)

[lynn1578]

i'm going through the same thing. I met a wonderful man a year ago. After a divorce of 15 years and three children i didn't think i would find anyone to love me and them. But we were married in may and he loves my kids and i love his. But he has an addiction to hydrocodone, it is the only thing we fight about, he lies to me about them and he has even bought them from so called friends. I had my breaking point about three weeks ago and almost left.. he go's back to the doctor this week and i have told him that i want to talk to the docotr and get him some help... he agrees he has a problem... he takes any where from 120 to 140 a month... i'm worried about him dying... and i'm worried he would chose them over me too.. i keep them and give them to him when he needs one.. but he always seems to find them and take 5 or 10... i would just like someone to talk to that has been through it before... i can't pray enough...

[MayfairLady]

Try Al-non support for friends and loved ones of addicts/alcoholics. You can't change them or make them do anything about their addiction but you can help yourself.