[survivorboi]

My sister just told me recently that her friends are ignoring her and it makes her feel very bad. She said that, they tell secrets behind her back and tell her to go away so they could talk. My sister is 8 years old. She said that at lunch time, they chose to sit by her but only talk among themselves, ignoring my little sister. My sister said when she tries to talk to them, they just say "wait" and keep on talking among themselves.

She cries the day she tells me. I hate to see my little sister so being hurt like that. Please help. Your welcome to leave advices on how to make my sister feel better.

(Am kind of mad at those people) :mad::mad::mad::mad:

[startover22]

This is so common. Give your sister support and let her talk to you. Give her examples of how you got your feelings hurt at that same age. In about two or three days, these kids will all be talking again. I just know they will. Kids this age go through friend phases. I did, my sister did, my friends did, and so does my daughter now. There is no need to be mad, these kids are just becoming people, let them. I promise, they will all be talking to her again soon;)

[sylvan_1998]

She needs a successful environment. Try girlscouts and such where she can have some normal friendships and hopefully she will start to seek those friendships out. A sports team, or any other community of people her age.

Also, I would advise the teacher of these concerns so the teacher can help to mold the other children into being better friends. NOT TO INTERFERE because that would be social suicide. But the teacher can help to place your sister in situations where she will be with people who will be nice to her and whom she will be nice to also. And the teacher can help to monitor these other children who are decidedly rude.

I agree this may only be a phase. Startover's advice is good advice. But sometimes these cruel kids are just cruel until they grow up. Your sister needs to learn how to ignore and truly dislodge herself from these types of people and find supportive people to surround herself with.

Yes I was your sister. In a small school with the same 40 people for 8 years. Amazingly when I went to a new school all those stigmas and problems went away also. Because I had learned how to develop friendships other places and knew it had to be them and not me.

Good luck

[survivorboi]

Thank you! Yeah, I always try and open up to her. Hey, I'm her brother, if I don't then what kind of brother am I? =)

[liz28]

It's sad when this happens. I've a 8 year old daughter and she goes through the same thing. I tell my daughter that no matter what mommy is your friend and I hug her and tell her I love her and would always be her friend. Also, I give her the talk of life about friends and just give her words of encourgembent and show her extra love.