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    Jan 21, 2009, 07:55 PM
    Twin brothers both confessed to liking me
    I find myself in a very awkward position. A good friend of mine was dating this guy for quite some time. Meanwhile I was seeing his brother for a short span during their relationship. After my friend broke up with this person, he and I began chatting from time to time, eventually leading to several times a day, everyday.

    There is always flirtation and discussion about relationships and sex, yet it was never clearly stated that we had real feelings for one another or that we would ever date, due to distance factors.

    Then, months down the road, the brother I was once seeing comes back into my life and we speak on a regular basis. He asks me out to dinner and we have a great time. It appears as if that old spark is there. He flat out says he likes me.

    A few days later after little hinting to each of them about the situation, my friends ex and my date's brother explains that he likes me and has for quite some time.

    Not wanting to hurt either of these guys I do not know how to approach the situation. Both of them know that the other likes me but they do not discuss it ever.

    What should I do?
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    Jan 22, 2009, 09:58 PM

    Do you have a preference?
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    Jan 23, 2009, 01:43 AM

    Be honist, it's the only decent thing you can do.. you should make a decision and stick to it otherwise you risk causing a conflict between the twins and that is awful!

    If you are finding it hard to make your choice take abit of time out to think about it.

    Remember, the most important thing you can do is be honist with them, one of them is going to get hurt.. it sounds innevitable, so just go about it in the most decent way possible

    Hope this helps...
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    Jan 23, 2009, 05:04 AM

    Who is better for you?

    Is either?

    Don't go into a relationship simply because someone likes you.

    There is always option c) neither.
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    Jan 23, 2009, 05:17 AM

    First, how you friend feels about you dating her ex?

    To be honest I wouldn't put myself in this situation because like you said "it's awkward". You already dated the brother.

    And if do take up something with the brother, I would take the noble approach and ask the brother and your friend their feeling about this situation. But since both brothers like you I would find another guy to be involve with because if you become involve with the brother, I see nothing but problems down the road.
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    Jan 23, 2009, 08:37 AM

    Just me, I never mess with an exes sibling. UGH!!
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    Jan 23, 2009, 08:39 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Just me, I never mess with an exes sibling. UGH!!!
    This!!!

    Way too creepy...
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