[rainbowreedbr]

I am cheering you on right now good job.

[kctiger]

I hate to be the pre-madonna here... but I just want to make sure I get my props in for starting this thread :)

[roxypox]

Lol this might be a stupid question... but:

Can other people add what they've learned?

Cause, dude, there are just so many lessons...

[artlady]

Great post! Wonderful suggestions and lets not forget that forgiveness is important.Don't be afraid to say you are sorry and ask for forgiveness.

[talaniman]

17. If you know for sure that the relationship will be going no where, it's better to end it sooner than later.

Its hard to break attachments, and move from the comfort zone, but it's a must to know when to let go.

Especially when things get worse, and the confusion and drama creeps in replacing the love.

Most of us fear being alone, and not being able to find someone to replace our current love. That thinking is a recipe for disaster later.

If we are to grow, making hard decisions, and coping with our feelings in a positive, proactive way, is essential.

****Thanks KC, for bringing this post to attention, and as your advice has been great, so are your recommendations.

[keekee3042]

Listen I'm sure a great person and if that person coudlnt see that maybe the breakup was a good thing you never know everythg happens for a reason! Remember stand 4 something or fall 4 anythng

[Synthy]

Wow :D this is sweet :D

[SimpleguyJoe]

Lots of great points!

[rudetome]

I learned how a man can deceive you to the point of no return.

[LoveStoned]

Thank You... Thank you... AND Thanks again.

[annica949]

More to add:


- Men: when your girl is upset, she just wants you to shut up and hug her.

OMG!! Why can't guys GET THIS!?

[kctiger]

OMG!!!! Why can't guys GET THIS!?!?!

Because it takes us AWHILE to learn to READ YOUR F-ING MINDS!! :D

[neverme]

People suck... alll of them!

Only joking (- mostly :D )

[platio101]

What is NC?

[kctiger]

No Contact... refer to the sticky in ths forum for rules and regulations.

[BMI]

WHAT??

NC stands for No Contact!! I thought it meant Nail Caroline!!

What have I done:)

[ajGambino]

I have one:

After a breakup, regardless of the situation what he/she said to you, DO NOT BE HOPEFUL for things to get better.

That is false hope.
Mistakingly assume your ex wants something more.

Don't hope because it's LIES.

[jerseybred]

This is a great thread and comes at a time when I need it the most. Thank you.

[Sphira]

As long as life is givinig u fruit don't be afraid to make it into juice and the cocktails cause when the limes are out of season the strawberries are there in the frige mmm strawberries

[jakester]

1. There is no such thing as meant to be, the one, true love, or soul mates. There is only the love that you work hard for with your significant other. That in itself, is real love.

2. Love does not simply fall into place, that is infatuation. Love takes hard work, and as soon as one fails to do so, it will crumble as a whole.

3. Communication and honesty are the key foundations to a loving relationship. Both must be present or all will fail.

4. If you are not focused on your significant other for companionship, you are cheating. If you feel the need to hide your conversations with another man from your partner, you are cheating.

5. When looking for a life partner, search for compatibility instead of acceptability

6. You can't try to change a person to someone you want, you must accept the person for who they are. You can only change yourself.

7. Aim to strive for a better you, but don't let another person change who you are.

8. NEVER EVER pressure or guilt your loved one into doing something they don't want to. Do not emotionally blackmail them by making them feel guilty.

9. Do not let your partner become like your mom. Some of them like to do that and it's up to you to know when the line is crossed.

10. Do not backtrack, keep pushing forward or you'll end up in a non productive circle. Accept the truth for what it is and stop giving yourself false hope. When the relationship has ended, you must not dwell in the past.

11. Having a sense of humor is a good thing in general and for a relationship. However, know when you are crossing the line between humor and insensitivity.

12. They might expect you to know what they are thinking without having to tell you, so keep this in mind and pay attention to what they say, their attitude and their actions.

13. When the times are tough, your family and friends are always there for you. Remember what they have done during the hard times and keep them in your heart always.

14. Do not build your life around the person you love and vice versa. Have them a part of your life but do not make them your life.

15. When you love and accept reality, you will be forced to move on without the bitterness within. Strive for this.

16. Take responsibility for your feelings and the actions you make.

17. If you know for sure that the relationship will be going no where, it's better to end it sooner than later.

18. Do not look for a rebound after a serious relationship has ended. It's unhealthy for you, unfair to the rebound, and disrespectful to the ex.

19. Cut all ties and avoid contact for your own sake. NC is the way to go after a break up.

20. Eat right, sleep well, and work out to get ripped after a break up. You will feel so much better about yourself and will take your shirt off at every given chance^^

ThatGuy - dude, you are the man... your observations can be chronicled in a book. I have some questions about a couple of your points if you are up for answering them.