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manga · Dec 24, 2008, 10:54 PM

Originally Posted by ZoeMarie

I talked to my husband for probably close to a month online before we met up. I was so nervous. we decided to go to steak n shake when I got off work one night since I work late. We each got a shake but we sat there talking for about 4 hours.

Did it seem any different when you transitioned from the web to in person?

manga · Dec 24, 2008, 10:57 PM

Sooo we're still going to meet. He didn't really have a good answer about talking to his ex other than she phrased the text message for him that he was getting back with her. I guess we'll see..

DoulaLC · Dec 25, 2008, 07:25 AM

Originally Posted by manga

Did it seem any different when you transitioned from the web to in person?

For me it was a little surreal at first, but then I traveled to the UK to meet in person... :) Felt right at home though, and quite comfortable with him and his two daughters. I think we were a little anxious at first... would the other person be the same, would it be awkward for some reason, but after the initial meeting at the airport, it was fine... :)

liz28 · Dec 25, 2008, 08:51 AM

Somehow I think your better off not meeting this guy. It'll save you a lot of drama in the long run.

You've to be extra cautious when meeting people online. Watch out for people that saids they love you when they never met you. Watch out for getting emotion attach to guys and them getting emotional attach to you.

This guy is talking about getting back with his ex one minute then confessing his love for you a minute later or before. These are a lot of red flags to me.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 25, 2008, 09:25 AM

The meeting someone online is really no different than meeting them at Home Depo, you have no idea who they are, don't know if they are telling the truth or not and have to learn each other.

But if they are not over their "ex" they are not ready to date yet.

DoulaLC · Dec 25, 2008, 09:40 AM

I agree Fr_Chuck... if they are still involved with or getting over an ex, odds are it is a rebound relationship. Better to wait until they are truly "free" to start a new relationship.

manga · Jan 10, 2009, 02:01 PM

so we met and I have to say it was a pretty amazing experience. He is however trying to make up for what he texted me... The way he explained to me was his doubts and how I may have not been real about everything. His X and him didn't really get together she had told him to text me about them getting back together, but they no longer talk anymore since he's been talking to me again. Yes I know what I am risking knowing what he had done. But really is coming off genuine and is trying to talk to me at all his available free time he can get to trust him again. His constant reassurance whenever I bring it up he doesn't get annoyed just really wanting me to believe him. Not in a persuasive way just when I feel I have an issue with it again or doubt he'll do something like that again he has no problem talking to me about it. All I can say is he REALLY wants to be with me.

DoulaLC · Jan 10, 2009, 03:53 PM

Glad the meeting went well for you... :)

ZoeMarie · Jan 11, 2009, 09:15 AM

Originally Posted by manga

Did it seem any different when you transitioned from the web to in person?

It did, but in a good way.

chrissymarie · Jan 12, 2009, 08:51 AM

Awesome! I wish you two the best of luck... me and my online lover are doing great as well!

Str8stack71 · Jan 12, 2009, 08:57 AM

All I can say is that, if your meeting someone you have met online, I recommend that you meet several times at a public place... do not take him back to your home and do not go to his home... don't be one of those people that say " i know him, he wouldnt do anything to me. hes a really nice guy"... it only takes one bad experience to make an impact on the rest of your life... don't be a "statistic"... be safe about it and play it cool until you know this person well and make sure that this person is not giving you a false sense of security... use your brain... and then get a second opinion from your heart...

Wondering Woman · Jan 22, 2009, 11:04 AM

I have experience with several online dating sites. The best are those you pay for. I've dated very nice men from online sites. I talk with them a few times before a meeting. Yahoo Personals J-Date.com and Match.com have all worked for me.

The worst online sites, in my experience, are the free ones like Plenty of Fish. The men on there are pretty shady and lack manners - and also job, quite often. Lol You get what you pay for. I tried free sites, but have always ended them after learning I was hearing a load of lies, or writing to a paroled ex-convict, or someone with bi-polar disease. Be careful on all sites, but especially on free ones.