[xbabycakesxx]

Do long distance relationships ever work. We both really love each other. We met over the internet and ave only met once so far vut he's coming again next week. But after that I won't see him for ages. The problem is I miss him everyday and its hard not seeing him. I know he wants to give it ago and I do too. But I do wonder if it will ever work

[ingrid119]

They can. I've been with my boyfriend for a year tomorrow and we started going out when he was doing a tour of Korea for the army and now he's stationed in NC while I'm in CA. For the first 5 months of our relationship we never got to see each other but now we see each other for about 2 weeks every 2 to 3 months. And we have the best overall relationship out of everyone I know.

But the thing is for the relationship to work you have to have the mental mindframe of 'I don't need to be in a relationship' because you are alone quite a bit... you're more independent than if you were in a relationship with someone you had the option of seeing everyday. If you're the type of person that always needs to be in a relationship a long distance will be incrediblely difficult for you. All the luck to you, though!

[xbabycakesxx]

Thanks I really want it 2 work though

[Gabriella19]

I once had a long distance relation.. but it didn't deal with me that type of relationship..
.I just tell you this if he really wants you and you really want him... you can work it out together for sure...

[Prime Goddess]

Well, I could say some worked while some will not. But I don't usually believe on dating online not unless the guy would come to your place and stick with you or fix things for you so you two could move together in one place. I once had long distance relationship, it took 2 years but after then he felt sorry over us when he was tempted to another woman in his place and can't forgive himself for doing that and suddenly he disappeared. And now I have this foreign guy who had just come to my place for soccer training and eventually got interest on me but things didn't go through with us because he doesn't know what he really wants.
Sweetie, I could say you're not alone. Things may happen so fast between you and that guy but the game isn't always over. Learn to compensate and strengthen yourself in ever circumstances that life and love brought in. that is how I spoke to myself. Just play fairly and in smart way.

[cc_baby]

My husband met online and was in a long time relationship for awhile they do work as long as your strong enough too make it work. What worked for us is that we both got web cams and saw each other everyday even though I couldn't touch him I still felt close to him because he gave me a couple of his shirts to sleep in and it made the distance thing feel a lot better

[xbabycakesxx]

I'm wiv my bpyfriend. I'm 16 and he's 21. So a 5year age gap. It isn't really a problem, but he goes out wiv mates at the weekend, and I get worried that he'll see a girl, flirt wiv her and end up doing stuff wiv her. When I try to tell him how I feel, he just says he'll never find any else, and he doesn't let me explain the way I feel and then I just end up getting annoyed wiv him. I need help about what to do really

[N0help4u]

You need to feel more self confident and secure before you lose him to your insecurities.
Insecurities turn guys off AND are a number one reason for break ups.

[kctiger]

I will tell you truthfully, it is extremely hard to keep a relationship like yours going. I don't know why a 21 year old would date a 16 year old (no offense). There is a HUGE gap in maturity and lifestyle there as I am assuming you live in America right? At any rate, you do need to control your own insecurities, however I could see how you might have them with the age gap and all.

[xbabycakesxx]

I live in england not america

[kctiger]

Well, whatever. My point of view is simple. So what? What does it mean if he flirts? I don't mean to sound harsh, but really. Flirting can be misconstrued as so many different things anyway... just talking to a girl can be called "flirting" sometimes. He is your boyfriend, and you are his girlfriend, period. Until something else disproves that, don't worry about it.

[N0help4u]

Realize too that if he was going to leave you for somebody else or cheat it is better you find out now than 3, 4, 5 years or more from now. But accusations and worrying about it will only push him into it.

[xbabycakesxx]

Ny boyfriend always thinks I'm going off with some other guy and no matter what I say it never stops. I've asked him to stop before but he never does. Its starting to really annoy me now and it isn't good because I take it out on him and then we both shout at each other. And when I say I love him, it's like he doesn't believe that either.

When I ask him about why he thinks I'm going with some other guy, he just says he's scared because I'm so beautiful and I mean everything to him, but he's scared that some other guy will take interest and I'll go with him. What can I do? I need a bit of help

[talaniman]

He has jealousy ,and some deep insecurity issues, and he must learn to deal with them.

In addition to telling him to stop, help educate him as to why he feels that way, which means educating yourself.

There are a lot of books about, jealousy, insecurity, low self esteem, all rooted in FEAR, on the market, or just Google these items for some insights, as to why he acts that way.

Its really his problem to deal with, but I understand your concern, and care.

I hope he can deal with his issues, good luck.

[xbabycakesxx]

Thank you. But how can he become less jealous and everything and what can I do to help

[NorthernNiceGuy]

I don't think there is a whole lot you can do unless he realizes for himself that how he is acting is unreasonable. Jealousy is a relationship killer. You have to let him know that these thoughts he has are unfounded, and that you are not going to leave him for another guy...

I agree with tal that maybe the two of you should look into some books on the subject... May I also suggest that a couples counseling may be a good idea... Having an outside voice can usually help because the person is more apt to listen to their opinion and be less confrontational.

"Jealousy always has the opposite effect you want it to"

[talaniman]

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I see you both have some issues, that you may not be experienced in dealing with, so as you educate yourself on these subject, maybe you both can help each other, but between the distance, your age differences, and personal issues, and having unprotected sex, there is bound to be conflicts to be resolved, and fear that neither of you knows, exactly how to cope with your own feelings as of yet.

I hope you take a lot more caution when dealing with each other, as all your actions have consequences that your not ready for, and will change both of your lives forever.

For now maybe your mom, or an older female, can explain why and how to deal with your feelings better, and understand his as well.

[xbabycakesxx]

I've been wth my guy about three months now but I've started fallingfo someone else and I really like him. He says he likes me too, and if I didn't ave a boyfriend he would want to be with me and make it work. But I don't know what to do. Please help

[Romefalls19]

The grass isn't always greener on the other side, either give your boyfriend all of your heart or leave

[neverme]

Rome, I couldn't have said it better myself.

You're being unfair to your boyfriend and there's nothing worse than feeling you have been betrayed. Don't cheat. Leave if that's what you want.