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    Dec 6, 2008, 12:40 PM
    Why is my boyfriend so possessive?
    My boyfriends name is randy. We have been together for 7 months. He has a huge issue with me talking to guys or even looking at guys. My mom tells me its because he is afraid to loose me but in reality if he keeps being that way he WILL end up losing me, even if i do love him with all my heart..What should i do to bring some sense into his beautiful head? [/IMG]:(
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    Dec 6, 2008, 12:49 PM

    Hello there :) with most young guys they get insecuer. And needy.

    He probable feels that these guys are better looking than him. And you will leave him.

    Just talk with him. Tell him how you feel. That if he keeps on acting this way. He will lose you.
    Tell him to trust you. And when you are with someone. You stay with them.

    And you are allowed to talk to who you want.

    Good luck
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    Dec 6, 2008, 12:55 PM

    Talk to him about it. Harboring these feelings and not telling him is bad. You need to let him know that he's pushing you away and that if he changes you guys will have a stronger relationship.
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    Dec 6, 2008, 01:00 PM

    If it doesn't get into his head then yes he will learn the hard way that his insecurity is exactly what ended up defeating the relationship. Most guys that are insecure never change and there is nothing you can do to make them change. So if you don't get through to him don't lie to yourself thinking someday he will change or someday he will outgrow it. He won't.
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    Dec 7, 2008, 01:10 AM

    Why would you have a problem with him being jealous? That just shows you are real important to him. He might not be scared that you will cheat on him. He probably just likes to think that he is the only guy you're interested in. when you flirt with another dude, that makes him feel like he isn't everything to you
    (when you're in love with somebody, they ARE everything to you)
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    Dec 7, 2008, 01:13 AM
    My advice: let him be jealous. It isn't hurting you. Unless he fights other guys or yells at you. But if he jut gets sad/upset/depressed, then I think YOU are at fault in this situation. You can't blame him for YOUR wandering eyes
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    Dec 7, 2008, 01:15 AM

    Just reassure him that you are with him, and that is where your interest is. If he catches a guy looking at you then just say "but I'm with you, sweetie" and hug him..
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    Dec 7, 2008, 10:09 AM

    Be honest, and tell him what he does turns you off, and your not going for that type of behavior. Then stick by what you say.
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