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arseyme · Nov 30, 2008, 11:08 AM

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. My boyfriend, two of my girl friends that he had only mt once, his cousin and I , went to a club the other night. All day before the night, my boyfriend and I were really excited about one another and would not stop kissing and all. Anyway, we get to the club and suddenly his attention was on one of my friends. He was all over her, touching her each time he had. I kept moving away to see if he would sense that I was upset, but he did not stop. After the club, we went to an after party. Every chance he had, he would dance with her and from time to time come over to me. When I finally got him to myself, I told him I did not like the fact that he was all over my girlfriend and that I thought he was disrespecting me. He laughted and told my friend I was jealous. I explained to him what he had done all through the night, he then said he was sorry and did not notice he was doing that. I know I was not assuming wrongly because his cousin also noticed it, told him to stop flirting with my friend. He even come over to me and asked me to calm down and forgive my boyfriend. Of course, I could not make a scene and tried to act like I was okay. After I had a talk with me, he then decided to dance with me every chance he had. That hurt because I felt like he was doing so because of what I told him.
He apologised, but I am not sure how I should handle this. He told me he felt embarrassed, went got into his car without sayign goodnight to my friends. Feeling really disrespected, I dropped my friends off and went to my house instead of spending the night at his place like we had planned.
I know this is a long one, but what do I do now?

N0help4u · Nov 30, 2008, 04:22 PM

Sounds like your friend was disrespecting you just as much as he was. Why would she allow him to be all over her when she is your friend. I would let it slide this time but if he ever does anything like that again with ANY girl, he has already been told about it. I would dump him asap if he does it again. I don't know if he is just a big flirt that needed put in place or if he finds your friend irresistible but he should never treat another girl more special and leave you in the position he left you in.

man33 · Dec 1, 2008, 11:24 AM

Everyone deserves a second chance and maybe he is telling the truth or maybe he is just covering up so you want get upset with him. Just get him alone and tell him how you really feel about the situation and let him know that you would never disrespect him like that and as far as your best friend goes she knows what she was doing and evidently didn't care enough about you or herself to tell him to stop so I guess no I know she liked it. You will just have to be careful who you introduce your love ones to. My boyfriend did the same thing with my cousin and I was very mad and he apologized. I sat him down and told him how I felt and he hasn't done it since. Just talk to him and if it doesn't work out you know what you have to do girl even though it will be hard for you to do and trust me if it's meant to be it'll happen again trust me

ZoeMarie · Dec 1, 2008, 12:14 PM

To be honest, reading your post, I was trying to figure out if you and your boyfriend have established that you're exclusive. To me that's just dumb to be out with you and your friends and be flirting with your friends... right in front of you. It doesn't make any sense. He either didn't mean any harm in it or he wasn't thinking... at all. And from the sound of it neither was your friend. Who lets their friend's significant other hang all over her? I would talk to your friend and ask why she didn't say anything.

liz28 · Dec 1, 2008, 04:30 PM

If your boyfriend of a year can do this in front of your face I wonder what he does when your aren't out with out.

One time I went out with my friend and her boyfriend to a club and I got mad when he touched my butt and after I told him about himself he said his "sorrys" but I think if I didn't say anything he would've continue so yes your friend was wrong but so was your boyfriend.

Also, it sad that other people notice his wrong behavior and I think was disrespectful if it made you feel bad.

KikiGirl13 · May 21, 2009, 04:42 PM

Well... try to forgive him for it. Your friend, if she let him be all over her, she's not a good friend then.

Don't worry too much, that happened to me as well. My boyfriend is spending a hell lot of time with my friend, and seems to be flirting with her as well... I confronted him about it, and all he did was ignore me.

At least your boyfriend APOLOGIZED. If he did that, try forgiving him, and let him have a second chance.

missemme · Feb 1, 2011, 08:53 PM

I think that he probably had too much to drink or he and your friend got to talking and realized that they had chemistry... or it could be both. Regardless of what it was, it is not a good sign that he just ignored you for the entire night... being with someone like that is not going to make you feel good about yourself, you are probably still feeling insecure about having your friends around him NOW... I am not putting blame on anyone but I think that as soon as you think you can move on, do so, because a guy like that is going to erode yourself esteem... We all deserve someone who only has eyes for us!!