[Alty]

alty, the arab in cairo (with the camel) was far more interesting then the mountie. I must send you pics some time, or, maybe not. It will destroy my pristine image on the forum and not allow me to further my ambitions.

Well now you've got me curious, so you have to tell. We won't tell anyone, right Linny? Mum's the word, your secrets are safe with us, we'll even change your name when we write our book, so no worries. ;)

[tickle]

I am thinking very seriously of baring all... I know you girls will not think I am a loose woman by divulging my secrets which many may benefit by.

Tune in for the first chapter of... as the forum turns...

[Alty]

Oooh, when does it start, when? I can't wait. Do we get the whole story at once or bits and pieces every day?

As for being a loose women, Tickle, trust me, you ain't got nothing on me. That didn't sound right. :(

[tickle]

Me at 66. Alty, although very well put together, yes I think I have a lot on you... no that doesn't sound right either... let me think about this... get back to you... sorry. Let me see, arab, mountie, scotty with the kilt and other thing, and then,mmm. Yes we better leave this for another day, after I sleep on it... or..

[Alty]

Just let me know when so I can make popcorn. :)

Oooooh, a good story, can't wait. :)

[Jake2008]

It is an interesting conundrum. :)

If I were out with my b/f or husband, and a woman sent him a drink, I wouldn't think it was without a reason, and whatever the reason was, I wouldn't like it.

If I was with a bunch of girlfriends, and received a drink, I'd accept it, and realize that doesn't give someone 'license' to talk to me, expect me to dance with them, or follow them home. All I would say, is 'thank you', no explanation needed.

If I were single, and sent a guy a drink, I would hope that he'd 'get it' and thank me for it, and maybe dance, have a conversation etc. But, if there was no response to my drink, I would not pursue it. I would take it as a polite rejection.

But, to think there is nothing intended is maybe a bit naïve? :confused:

[dontknownuthin]

It's a drink, not a proposal. If the drink has been poured, he's paying for it anyway. Send a thank you through the bartender. If he approaches, which he certainly will, and you are in a relationship simply tell him, "that was so sweet of you and it's great to meet you, but I should be honest and let you know I'm engaged." If you aren't into him, just have small talk for a few minutes and then excuse yourself and end the converstaion. Thank him without giving the wrong idea. "Oh, that was so kind of you but no, I'm sorry, I don't feel comfortable giving you my phone number". If he persists, "please don't take it personally, I just don' t wish to dance with you (go out with you, follow you to the next club, whatever).

You certainly can reject a drink and the right time to do that is if it's someone who's out of line in any way, who appears to expect something for the drink, who you know and who is trying to control you in this way knowing you want them to leave you alone, or if they are just weird or creepy and it feels like the right thing to do. And certainly, reject it if you are on a date or with your partner. Just tell the waiter, "Well, that was thoughtful but I'm here with my boyfriend, and only feel comfortable accepting drinks from him."

[kp2171]

It's a drink, not a proposal.

Absolutely love this line, dkn.

It doesn't have to be much more complicated than this, but we are all experts at mucking things up and making simple things convoluted. Dammit occam... I trusted you.

Tho' a few too many drinks might lead to a premature proposal...

[tickle]

Hi KP,dontknownuthin, et al. Date rape drugs (introduced into very nice looking little cocktails with umbrellas) are manufactured in home labs. Date rate drugs cannot be dectected upon first taking a sip and conversation goes on as usual until the nice young man talks lovely lady into going outside for a smoke and fresh air. Wammo. Fresh air hits and nice young man is going to score in about l hour.

If you think this is far fetched... I don't think so. It is all so innocent and the 'nice young men' who frequent these bars looking for cuties, will succeed.

Ms tickle on her soapbox