[packer04]

I am back again. I have talked to all of before. So what I am understanding is that I really shouldn't be friends with this man. Sort of brushed me off after 5 months. Said he had no feelings for me even though he told me that I was exactly what he wanted and we were so alike. I have feelings for him very much. I know at 50 maybe he doesn't know that there aren't that many great women out there, so should I take the chance and be friends. He has called 3 times in the past 2 weeks and I have to say I told him he hurt me and after that much time with him I got the feeling we were more-I got mixed signals. I told him I felt brushed off as a friend or whatever I was and it hurt. I care for him and would like to see him again as at 49 its not easy finding that special guy. So I guess nice guys aren't so nice and don't want nice women either. No to friends and move on?? He wants to be friends, but I don't know what to think.

[kaitou]

You can't be friends with someone you still like. It just messes up the whole relationship, you'll feel torn up all the time, wishing to be more..

So I would suggest no contact with this man

[talaniman]

Your judging this on your wants, and needs, and not adding his in. He doesn't want what you do, and sees friendship, and not romance. Thats reality.

You want, and need more, even though you want to stay friends, and keep him in your life.

They only problem with that is, you will always have a false hope of him changing his mind, and wanting what you want, and thats not happening.

You need time to heal, and deal with the reality of your situation, and then, decide if friendship will work without those false hopes of getting more than he is willing to give.

That's why strict No Contact, will let you get over him, and cope with your feelings. Only then, can a friendship be possible.

Let the hurt heal, and then see what comes next.

Him not having the feelings you do, only means, he is ready for what he wants and thinks you are too! Your not.

VERY STRICT NO CONTACT, and be patient as this is a slow hard process to get over some one.