[Lizzyb6938]

OK well basically some people might already know my story
Been with boyfriend 2.5 great years. We break up (his idea) because he's going on hols, starting stressful medicine course next year and I'm possibly leaving. We meet to discuss it, have the best day, he wants to get back together (I say not right now because he's so confused), says he loves me and wants to be the man of my dreams. He cries, tells me how much he's missed me.

We speak Thursday, I suggest we do something again before he goes away because we had such a great time. He's going away in three days and is busy working, seeing family etc but suggests I come out with his group on sat night because they're having a dinner before they go away. I love his friends, they love me, I've even seen them since we broke up a week and a bit ago. So I say I'll think about it. I message him today saying 'hey, not going to come tonight, might be weird with everyone talking about us. Have a great night :-)' so he writes back saying 'hey pumpkin, how was work? Are you sure about that? It might be weird to some, but then I'm a bit weird lol.' so I said 'yeah that's true, um all right, I'll come over around 6ish.' so I have a shower, get changed and he writes me a message saying 'hey pumpkin, so good news, a lot more girls in the group are coming than I thought (he thought it might be all boys), do you think it will be fine or still awkward?' so I'm like f*** this and I call him to see what the f is going on (shouldn't have called, I know, I know).

We speak normally, he seems chatty and his normal nice self. Said that he loved me ( I hesistated in saying it back, but did) and I said so what's going on tonight. He said I don't know are you coming. I said well you seemed a bit ambivalent. So he said well I've been thinking about it for the last hour and I don't know maybe it would be a bit strange with everyone whispering and trying to figure out what's sort of going on. I think basically what happened is that he checked with his friends to see who was coming and their like 'oh Lizzy is coming, what's going on?'

He's like yeah a little so I said OK then well I won't go. He said I was thinking maybe Monday would be better, lunch on Monday like last Monday which was so wonderful. I just want the last time that I see you before I leave to be like that rather than spending the whole night with everyone else wondering what's going on. I said well I don't know if I can do Monday, I'm busy. He's like are you sure? I said yeah. He asked 'are you sure you can't just fit it in?' I said well I really don't know. He's like OK. I said tonights better for me, but I know it will be awkward. He said yeah. So I said well Monday I finish at 11:30. He said well that's fine we'll have brunch, where do you want to go? I said I don't mind. He said well lets have a think, I'll speak to you tomorrow.

I don't know if I should go or not. Honestly I kind of enfuriated at his ambivalence but then I did think it would be awkward too. In fact during the week I was saying no way am I going, his friends would just wonder what is going on and I refuse to go out with matt and them while we don't know what is going on. So I totally agree with him but I'm still frustrated. Should I go on Monday? He seemed pretty keen but I just don't know.

[talaniman]

What kind of game are you playing with each other? Your both leaving for your careers, but this game of continuing to go out, and seeing each other is accomplishing what exactly?

You both don't know what to do, and are confused. Either break up, or try the long distance thing, but this pretend dating until you have to go is only prolonging the inevitable.

Do you really need another post to keep asking the same question?? Thats very confusing to the readers.

[LifeChangesMan]

Yeah, for updates just post on the old one we'll all get it. Posting the same one is nonsense

[Lizzyb6938]

Sorry OK, will only post in the old one from now on