[wendyclear]

I live with my biyfriend and he REALLY wants me to talk
Dirty to him. I'm sooo new at sex all together. I'm so clueless
As to what to say.

Someone please give me some phrases.
Dirty. But not TOO dirty.

Please! :D

[letmetellu]

First I would tell him how he is making you feel, and I would use words that you might not use with your mother around. Tell how big his manhood is and how much you love it, how you love to touch it. Tell him how it make you feel when he shoots into you. Also tell him to talk dirty to you and then later you just repeat what he has said.

[linnealand]

Urgent instructions, hmm... now, is he waiting in the other room? :)

There was recently a thread that discussed a similar theme. You might want to take a look at it for some extra ideas.

Here is the link: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...ty-277767.html

[Clough]

Hi, wendyclear!

Just to add a little to the answers here, there's also additional links at the bottom of this page to questions that have been similar to yours. You might want to click on them and see what some of the answers have been

Thanks!

[Hazel1220]

I love to tell them what I want. I you do not know what it is that you want that is OK too. Just say that you want his... and need it... really the more practice = more confidence= dirty talk.

[violet9]

I like to tell them what I love about their body and how I wish they were in bed with me, if we were on the phone.

I usually just say what comes to mind.
Just be honest with him. Make sure you're having fun too.
:)

[Starbucks21]

Watch a good porno or 2 and see their bad acting and that's pretty much dirty talk...

[Choux]

I have to tell you. Becoming a good lover, a lover who has multiple orgasms and pleases her partner... well, girl, it takes time, and it is always a mistake to go from virgin to outright "slut" in a month or two.

You may ruin your chances of becoming a fully orgasmic woman in the future, a mature woman with a wide accumulation of sexual experience over the years. A woman with a good sex life.

In effect, you will just be imitating porno actresses, not developing your real sexual self. You know what happens when we imitate people... we lose ourselves.

I'm 100% against you being manipulated by your so-called boyfriend... girl, he is only interested in himself, not in your sexual well-being.

The best is yet to come. :)

[mommyiggy]

I think its important to fulfill each others needs but not if its something that is totally uncomfortable to you. Start slow if you're not able to do it face to face try doing it over the phone. If you want to start during love making. Whisper it, when he's doing something right tell him, tell him it feels good or you like what he's doing my hubby and I have been together for nearly 12 years and that's about as dirty as I get. That's my comfort zone and I stay there but you got to do what works for you. Keep us posted and let us know how the pillow talk goes.

[Alder]

I like what Choux had to say. I've been married 20 years, and my number one rule (not just for sex, but all aspects of the relationship) is "When in doubt, err in favor of more communication, rather than less." That tends to work for business relationships and personal ones, actually.

The best way to learn to talk dirty is to just plain talk more, talk honestly, before during and after, about how you feel and what you like. It's about learning to honestly express your true self.

That said, the biggest human sex organ is the brain. Lots of what happens to us sexually starts there and ends there. And the best part of the human brain is the ever-evolving imagination. So although we usually get undressed for sex, sex is a little like playing dress-up. It gives you a chance to play, to try on different aspects of your personality, and see how you like them. And don't be afraid to laugh if it gets too silly. There's nothing wrong with putting on an act now and then. Acting, on a public stage or a private bed, can be a way of bringing out little pieces of yourself that have been a part of you all along, but that you usually keep hidden away.

[smoothy]

What works is not going to be the same for everyone. Rule #1 is it has to be something you are comfortible with and fits your personality. If its forced or somehow not Genuine its not going to work.

Like was mentioned earlier focus on how YOU feel and what YOU want right then and there...

Porn helps find new acts... but the dialog is about the most stupid ever committed to film.

[flwruop]

When you're in bed just talk about what you want before during and after. Touch and be touch and it will all come to you if you're comfortable with one another. Just make sure that it's a two sided thing. Make sure you're not doing everything he wants and not getting what you want in return.

[TexasParent]

To further the good answer of Alder, honesty and communication about what turns us on without fear of judgement by our partner can lead to incredible intimacy. It doesn't mean we have to like everything or participate in everything our partner likes, but it means we are to listen without judgement and hopefully our partner will do the same.

With honest communication you will find out things about each other and yourself in which you have common ground and can explore further. Half the fun is taking a little risk, going outside the box a little bit and a loving partner can hold your hand or other things along the way... ;)

Good luck.

[Mymama]

When you both are not in the mood, ask him. What kind of things would you like to hear? Go along with what he is saying. Not the same things as he says. Go slow and have fun with it, if you both laugh then you know that is was all worth it:)