[Bural21]

I'm a 17 year old girl, and like some... I get jealous easily, not only in relationships... but in a lot of things. I don't like it much. I just want to get over it... but I don't know how.

Examples:
Relationships: I notice my boyfriend talking to another girl, I find her prettier then me, and I get insanely jealous and end up fighting with my boyfriend.
Other girls: I see a girl who's hair looks just great, and she rocks her jeans just right, I decide I don't like her JUST because she looks better then me. (At least in my head.)
At home: My brother gets more attention, not in good ways though, and I think my parents prefer him, when really, I haven't done as much screwing up as he has been.

You get the point? I just want it to stop, I don't like this trait in me, and it's really causing me to be socially awkward.

Any hints, or tips, or advice on how to ditch the constant jealous act?

Thank you so much, in advance, for reading/responding. Be brutally honest, too.

[JBeaucaire]

Jealousy is normal, especially when it's justified, like it sounds like it may be at home. I wouldn't beat yourself up about the jealous leanings. Give yourself a break.

Having said that, give everyone else a break, too. Jealousy can be cute if you let it be. But aiming your insecurities at someone else, getting into an argument over them... that's got to be a non-starter. And it's definitely not cute.

I doubt you can just "turn off" the jealousy pangs. You're only hope is to keep your HUMOR and CUTE in play when you bring these things up. That will help, short-term.

Long-term... you'll have to just wait. Growing up means you get better at these things. You'll get more and more comfortable in your own skin, know what I mean? There is always someone smarter, someone prettier, someone more successful. It takes time to absorb the idea that that's OK. Those people don't actually threaten you, most of the time.

So, work on the "cute" aspect. "Sweetie...(like a little girl) I get so jealous when you talk to those other girls. Why do I get jealous? Hmm....?"

Or, on a more mature note: "Sweetie, I am really having jealousy issues and I know you're a great guy, you're awesome, I love you....please just shake my shoulders if I get out of hand with the jealous behavior, OK? Be my rock."

[cissy0801]

Don't worry :) everyone gets jealous. However I just think you have to accept that fact that there will ALWAYS be people better than you, prettier than you.

I use to be jealous at people that were better than me and wouldn't talk to them because I thought they were snobs. :P. But then my mum told me that it's OK to be jealous but you can also overlook it and improve on the things that you can (but don't become competitive) and just be happy with what you have and are. :)