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    greeneyedbaby Posts: 60, Reputation: 2
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    Oct 26, 2008, 12:49 PM
    I'm really done with waiting
    My roommate and I have been off and on with 2 guys who are best friends and roommates as well for a year now. This last time that we were in the off phase it was because we had decided that the boys were inmature and needed to grow up. That was 4 months ago. About a month ago both boys got hold of us and each in their own way showed us that they had grown up and missed us and wanted to give things another try. Since at the moment we are both single we decided to see where it would lead. But here's the thing before if there was ever a fight or a misunderstanding in one couple the other couple would start having problems. And when one couple broke up the other would break up. And not because of us girls. The boys would "follow the leader" or something. Now I have decided that the guy I was with I just want to be friends with. I don't feel like I want to be serious with him however my roommate is really thinking about trying to make things work with her boy. But if I don't date joe then marco won't date her. Am I Being a bad friend by not dating joe? Or should I date him to help her out till they get serious to be a good friend?
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    Oct 26, 2008, 12:51 PM

    Um... no you are not being a bad friend... but you are leading on the guy.. you don't like him or the way he treats you send him packing... its not your fault his roommate can't make up his mind on his own... see what I mean?
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    Oct 27, 2008, 07:23 PM
    If you don't like him, then break up with him.

    The point of a relationship is for the people in it to build something together and because of that, relationship matters only concern the people involved. If you want to break up with him then it's nobody's business but yours and his.

    If your friend loses her relationship with the other guy because the other guy breaks up with her, then he's either only in a relationship because his friend is - in which case, he's leading your friend on - or he's not taking responsibility of his own life by allowing his friend to dictate it for him - which makes him an unsuitable guy for a relationship anyway.
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    Oct 28, 2008, 02:05 AM

    You can't go into something without going in without all your heart. Anything less and your leading the guy on. Doing this will only make it worse for you and your friend.

    Do what you have to do. There are enough
    Guys around for you and your roommate!
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