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Krs · May 31, 2006, 06:55 AM

Originally Posted by Akumajo100

It's ben 6 months so far since she has ben out of the relationship.

How is your relationship with her in general?

DrJ · May 31, 2006, 11:34 AM

Okay... we can go on and on about whether a guy and girl that are friends can become romantically involved... okay, its possible... it may happen once in a blue moon... but the reality is that one cannot assume it is that way.

For every time that it HAS happened, there are about 999,999 times that it Hasn't happened.

So I mean it when I say, you're one in a million, babe! ;)

If you are to even attempt to be her friend in the meantime, you HAVE to make your feelings known NOW. That is imperative! Then, if you two choose to hang out while she takes a little more time to get over her relationship, at least it will be on those terms... each time taking a step closer to becoming a couple. But she HAS to know your intentions. (And by the way... six months is PLENTY time to get over someone!)

If you do not tell her your intentions, and you are just her "friend," she will put you in that category, discuss her ex-bf with you, and any hopes of becoming more than friends will be lost.

A good idea would be to take some notes here. This stuff is gold... if you read around here, there is a lot of hidden nuggets in these relationship threads. You have to create attraction. Make her forget she ever had an ex-bf.

You don't want to be there to be a shoulder to lean on about her ex-bf... the past is the past... you want to be focused on the future... which is YOU and HER.

Wildcat21 · May 31, 2006, 12:12 PM

I fully agree with the above. You NEVER want to be a woman's Therapist. That's for HER FRIENDs. Once you do that she loses all attraction for you. I am an extremely open person... I've been there and done that - it's bad.

I would slowly step away... not see her as much... not answer her calls... not return calls right away.

Be busy.

s_cianci · May 31, 2006, 06:51 PM

She needs time to get over her previous experience before considering another relationship. Keep on being there for her as a friend and let her get to know you. Eventually she may warm up to the idea of a relationship with you after she gets to know you and sees that you can be trusted. I can't make any guarantees but giving things patience and time is what's needed in this case.