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CM94 · Oct 11, 2008, 09:14 PM

OK well this is my first time to really use one of these sites but I thought id give it a try and see what other opinions I can get.

OK, there is a girl that I'm completely in love with, but she has a boyfriend, I'm completley in love with her and were best frineds. I met her about a year ago and started talking and became good friends we heve been through a lot and we get along great.. the way she make me feel is like nothing I have ever felt. I work with her boyfriend and he knows how we get along and really doesn't bother him I think... I told myself in the begging to not fall but that didn't happened she means the world to me and all I want to see is us together. She is in college so I go see her whenever I have time.. I really don't know what to do she is all I think about all day long we talk 24-7 she knows I like her but I haven't told her or know if I should tell her that I have falling in love with her and I know she likes me (she has told me) she has even told me that she has never met anyone like me I want to see her happy but with me. I have never been in this kind of sisuation and it sucks.. so any advice would bo so helpful

AskJenny · Oct 11, 2008, 09:54 PM

You can remain her friend but as you said she's got a boyfriend so she's off limits. Remaining her friend; that's about all I an offer you...
Don't create the fantasy in your mind of you and she... she is taken. Doesn't matter that she agrees with you that she likes you, you like her.

JBeaucaire · Oct 11, 2008, 10:47 PM

Action = character. You can't court someone else's girlfriend and be considered anything but evil.

You CAN tell her you'd be interested in doing things together if she ever finds herself free, and that's it! You can't say or do anything beyond that.

Fantasies are fun, attractions are noteworthy, but your actions = your character. Keep your character noble.

liz28 · Oct 12, 2008, 12:46 PM

Since you feel the way you do about her, she should limited yourself with her. You don't have to stop being her friend but you need to control them otherwise it's going continue to grow.

talaniman · Oct 12, 2008, 01:11 PM

Keep it to yourself, and be a friend. If it means talking to her less, and doing other things... DO IT!!

High Max · Oct 12, 2008, 01:31 PM

Respect the current relationship and maybe get your "in" when they break up. Don't be the guy who causes girls to take a "break" and ruin the guys life.

jojo007 · Oct 12, 2008, 05:23 PM

Okay.. so you don't want to lose this friendship, it sounds like one of those 'eternity' sounding ones and a true friend is one of the hardest things to find.. unfortunately the thing is that true love is ALSO one of the hardest to find. If you two are as close as you say you are... honesty isn't going to be a problem. If you know she likes you in more of a friend way then this might go well.. what you have to do is write her a letter maybe and sit with her there while she reads it. Not anythignt oo full on... just something small to say that she is someone who you can be yourself around, rely on etc and that's exactly what you want out of a relationship. Explain that having her in your life is most impotant so you don't mind her reply as long as you keep your bond. If she doesn't see you that way... you have to work VERY hard to keep your relationship as friends. If she DOES feel something for you then... you've waited a long time to be with her. She can break up with her boyfriend, you can keep it low key until it has all blown over. You will want to take this slow if she is the one.