[pheebs]

The couple: taiwanese, vietnamese, born and raised in America (both still very cultured, first generation)

Or any other type of bi-cultural wedding.

Family that can't fly here?
Friends?
Alcohol?
Bride's family pays?
Groom's family attending?
Hotel?
Wedding location?
Food?
Language?

Please tell me anything and everything that you know, have an opinion about, think about, experienced, ANYTHING!

I've been attending a few weddings here and there and my boyfriend and I have really gotten to thinking about it. But, we're in this huge predicament about our cultures, though they aren't THAT different, but small things here and there. And of course, the whole family guests and who's paying and who's inviting who... all that lovely stuff :)

Just wanted to get some ideas early on (yes, before there's even a proposal!)

[Clough]

Hi, pheebs!

One thing that I would advise is having a wedding that incorporates at least some of the traditions concerning weddings that would generally take place in the individual cultures of the bride and groom as well as those related that are attending so that there isn't a lot of culture shock and perhaps disappointment for any people.

I do have an experience concerning culture shock at a wedding. If you're interested in hearing about it, please let me know.

I've been involved with helping couples and performing musically for weddings for over 36 years.

Hopefully, others will also come along to address your question.

Thanks!

[starbuck8]

Hi Pheebs. I would go to a bookstore, and look for a wedding book on tips for bi-cultural weddings/marriages, and also an American one, like maybe Martha Stewart weddings, for some idea's on how to combine the two.

You might also want to do some research on the internet for customs and etiquette of the two cultures.

I'm not sure what you meant by "Friends?" Do you mean should you invite them? If that is what you meant... of course you should.

I'm also not sure about your question about family that can't fly here. Were you looking for idea's to make them feel included?

Wedding location? Do you mean for the ceremony or the reception?. or both? Or do you mean somewhere neutral and in between where it would be easier for others to attend. Like a different country in the middle?

It's a little foggy to me. Why are you asking before the proposal? Perhaps you want to be prepared should that happen, but I don't quite understand. :)